The only advice I can give you is this; Get a stick. Get a
big stick. You'll need it to beat all of the ladies here that have been looking for someone just like you.
Seriously, dating a crossdresser is just like dating anyone else - find what and who attracts you. Crossdressing is just one part of what makes up who we are. In the end, you don't want to date a crossdresser. You want to date a person with whom you have a connection and a life that meshes with yours. If that person happens to like getting dressed up and pretty - everybody wins!
Kathi