So if you're interested in guys, where do you meet them?

[Monica93304]

I've been out a lot lately, but it's been to the Gay bars. No luck there. The few admirerers have been creepy. I've attended bars like The Oxwood in LA. I've had no luck finding men there. I've been hit on by CD's there, but not my thing either.

I hope to be able next year to live in my own place and be able to go normal things as a girl. Grocery shopping, going out for coffee, and things like that. Hopefully I'll meet men that are more in the main stream.

[jill_gossard]

two places that have worked for me in England.
sweetwednesday.co.uk its a sex club for tvs and admirers.
its advantage is that is begins after lunch so you could still be home on time.
You will get attention there.
on line I have had most success with swingingheaven.co.uk
the adverts and profiles let you chosse quite well.
I have had plenty success there.

all dirty though no serious relation ships expected.

[Lilly 40C]

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[Bowmanls2]

It is also hard to find other CDs to date and have fun with!

[Veronica75]

I did all of my crossdressed dating back before the whole craigslist era, so I can't speak to that-- there were chatrooms, but I never really got into that. In NYC there was never a shortage of parties-- so much so that some had become very specific to transsexuals, others to crossdressers.

I only went to the CD parties, and as Starof Delite said, most were meat markets and you wouldn't want to go alone unless you were looking to get picked up. Since I WAS looking to get picked up, I never had a problem going alone. A lot of the guys were creepy, but not all of them, and it was usually very easy to tell very quickly. I found too that you could always count on a sister to get you out of trouble if a guy was giving off bad vibes-- even total strangers would respond if you flagged them down going by and help extract you without too many clues-- or at least that was my experience.

I always had fun at (and often after...) the CD parties, I really miss them!

[christinek]

I would say go to your local TG/CD support group! You will meet people accepting right off the bat.

I have been invited to some odd places to include knitting classes at Barns & Nobles, theaters for some interesting play topics.

You never know where you might meet Mr. or Ms. Wright

Christine

[MimiLee]

I've dated a few guys that I met through aol and craigslist and have had pretty good success. This route is definetly not for everyone; I was extremely cautious and spent alot time weeding out the good guys out from the bad. Before I would actually meet a guy, I would probably chat, IM, email with them for a few weeks to two months. If your patient as well as the guy, it can work out. Just remember to be careful.

[PaulaSF]

Tough to find either guys, or other out & about t-gals (my preference ;-) on CL.

Seems that the fellas are generally "newbies"/curiousity seekers that haven't sorted thru all the confusion, guilt, paranoia & shame re. bi/gay sexuality/dating and have a lot of fantasy vs. reality disconnects, seemingly fueled by a lonely "dating" life associated with on-line ******* porn (shake my head at how we must be fulltime/passable, yet they're only seeking a closeted, "down-low" hookup).

Of course, this cuts both ways, many t-gals come off as "boy crazy," ditzy 12 -year old girls, and perhaps not really "ready" for serious dating, either (I know, we all gotta start sometime!).

Misc. Romance (MR) vs. Casual Encounters (CE; home of the "closeted, sex-only, quickie hookup!") is a slight help.

Downside of CL, is anyone can flag you, & get your ad removed, so for those of us that are at all selective, tough to avoid the disgruntled would be suitors, that are upset we declined their cretin-esque overtures!

Having dressed fully, gone out dressed, and dated as a tranny for a quarter century, now, I find that there isn't really any "magic," to it- getting out there, doing things you enjoy, while presenting in a time of day, and venue appropriate manner is a biggie. This, by itself, will avoid lots of on-line "time-wasting" with those, of any gender/presentation , that aren't really ready to enjoy the whole see & be seen vibe that fun urbane evenings out entail.

I think its natural for both guys & t-gals to sorta "roam in packs," which can be offputting to potential suitors. A single wingwoman (or man, as appropriate) is best- fun to have someone to share the evening with, and not too daunting to get approached/chatted up. But, the downside of getting ever more confident & adventuresome is the realization that you're likely going to be doing it solo, which has the added benefit of making one seem more approachable & "available."

Far less gay/t-dar, beyond the "tranny ghetto" of drag shows & gay bars, too. Museums/galleries, and live theater (inevitable chatting when at the interval, queueing for the loo/cocktails, etc.!) have been a great source of fun evenings, in my experience.

Agree that large cities are likely best- a certain upside to being fairly "anonymous," afterall!

cheers,
Paula

PS "Rules Girl" disclaimer: I'm not big on the whole conquest/one-night stand mindset, and disdain being treated as an unpaid escort/once every month, or two, "booty call," with no communication or follow up/thru! Caveat Emptor!

[Julie in Virginia]

I've had most of my luck at TG bars. Divas in San Francisco has been a particulary good place for me to find an interested guy or two. I've also had a good time at the TG weekend at Rainbow mountain in PA.

Of course, most of the guys were only looking for one thing. But if you make them work for it-it can be a fun adventure!