For those who have a compromise or arrangement over dressing what have you worked out? Is there one thing that is just a harder spot for your SO?
I dress on Wednesday and Saturday. It used to be Tuesday, Thursday and Saturdays but this was too much for her, she didn't have enough time to recover from a day before it was time for a new one. Oddly enough we both separately came up with the idea of me giving up a day altogether. She surprised me by adding that if there was a day I was off work and she wasn't I could have that time as long as I changed before she was expected home or she called to tell me she was getting off work early and if she forgot to call that I go change when she came in.
On my days I can be dressed around in her in whatever fashion I've chosen and we'll do whatever it is we are doing, watch a movie or read and she'll take as many back or foot rubs as she can get.The agreement is that at bedtime if I am sleeping in the same bed as her the only feminine item I wear is panties.
She is okay with me wearing lipstick and nail polish but wouldn't like any more makeup than that which is fine with me and neither of us wants me in a wig. I have no desire for forms and I suspect that's a good thing for her at least.
There are two things she just absolutely does not like. Bras and Vanilla Fields perfume. None of the other lingerie bothers her but she says bras are just creepy. While I do like them I was going to purge them and be happy about it; she stopped me and we agreed that if I was going to wear them it had to be under something bulky enough not to be visibly obvious and I figured they should further be confined to every other Saturday. For the perfume it isn't the fact that it's perfume that bothers her so much as she just doesn't like the scent which got it also confined to every other Saturday.
As for going out if I insist on it I will likely be by myself. Most things don't go out now unless I will be staying in the car. Nail polish, pants, some boots and pantyhose provided they are nude colored if they can be seen do go out. If we discount Halloween I've been out as dressed as I get only a couple of times; once in Las Vegas and once to a Tri-ess meeting. This year after I retire from the military going out will get another look but we both agree that for now it's too close to the end to rock the boat too much.
