What exactly constitutes a "fetish" crossdresser? Does it have to do with clothing style, or sex, or both? Is it kinky? Is it outlandish? Is it all that as opposed to those of us who want to just look elegant or pretty? What if we like to look elegant and pretty, and still involve sex in the mix? Are we then fetishists with a preference for a certain look? All obsessions manifest themselves in one way or another. One girl's fetish is another girl's norm.