Maybe if you make your own ID you know take a picture of yourself both in Female mode and in Male mode and list your information with the pictures and then laminate it for safe keeping. Then state on there that this is not legal identification.
There is no law that says you cannot carry pictures of yourself and show them to people.
Maybe one side is female and the flip side is male.
Then when you are asked for ID you give them your legal ID and if they have questions you could show them your homeade picture card.
Sorry I wasn't done, This idea came while reading the Wis ID thread.
I have lots of pics that I carry and why can't we carry a picture card of ourselves as long as we don't try to pass it off as an actual ID card.