Yesterday I was asked a question from a friend a guy at work, he supports me in my transition. My other friend Stef was there as well. Earlier that afternoon I was talking and and joking around, I supposely hit the forklift with a closed fist and made some comments. I don't recall hitting the forklift. Anyway, my friend Manny was asking me how my transition is going, more in my mind. The point he was asking is "how feminine in my mind do I feel", because as he put it hitting the forklift with a closed fist is not what a women would do.
He also commented that he fully supports me and would like to know when the butterfly will fly. He also commented that people are watching me now especially since coming out over the last year or so and especially since my official coming out 2 month's ago. My response to him was that transitioning is a process, a long process. It's not like a light switch where one day I was a man than the next day I'm a woman. For me, all I knew I was different thru out my life, but I didn't know exactly what it was. All I knew was I wasn't comfortable doing the many things males do, sports, relationships with women ie; dating. Nonetheless, I acted the part of a man for 50 + years. My action, hitting the forklift with a closed fist was more of a habit, a mannerism. I explained that I lived my life as a man because it was expected of me, that now I have to learn new feminine traits and lose those males traits behind.
My question to my sisters is this, did you have feminine traits thru out your life, prior to your transition or were you mostly manly? When you realized you were trans, how long did it take to lose the guy habits you had? Was it a long process for you? With his question he presented me, it makes me wonder if people are looking at me closer, trying to see the woman in me or whether I'm for real. In a small way it makes me doubt myself. What is your opinion? Kimberly Marie Kelly