There is nothing wrong with it and actually people do not think that we are psychos. In fact the plain simple truth is that they do not think about is much at all. They have their own lives and problems to think of and the good news is that that means that they just ignore us
What stop do I get off at? Hmmm...
Yeah!! Half the time I think I'm a psycho!!
Psycho is my middle name.
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This thing of ours is much more complex than simply being an analog of women wearing men's clothes. And, women have fought for over a century to have the right to do as they please.
The general public are, well, sheep. They have been conditioned by society to believe what the collective mindset dictates. They fear what they do not understand, and the collective has not given them the knowledge to understand things like this thing of ours, so they condemn & fear what they know not. Or, they actually are interested themselves, but from fear of the collective, are compelled to condemn something that causes their thoughts to deviate from the collective's norm.
Also, to some degree, women, at least some women, fear that by our indulging in this thing of ours, that they will lose some what they hold in high respect - their femininity. These are their clothes - the source of their power - their 'fire'. They want no man to steal, or even to discover the secrets of their power, or 'fire'. Therefore, they condemn us as perverts, as psychos, as mental cases who need to be studied. Sorry ladies, i've already studied you, and know the source of your powers. But worry not, your secrets are safe with me. Oh, by the way, do you have this in a 40C?
that was what I said... it's a cunundrum, because they wont feel comfortable till we feel comfortable.. but we wont feel comfortable till they feel comfortable.. get it?Originally Posted by kellycan27
Even if you ARE the sharpest tool in the shed, your still a tool.
[SIZE="3"]Well said, and interesting points Rhonda Lynne! I could not have said it better! Some women do feel that way, that we are in forbidden territory, stealing their secret, fire. Of course, they get a free pass, in stealing the masculine things.[/SIZE]
Well, they have nothing to lose.. so looks like the ball is in our court. What cha gonna do?
okay I will ignore the ref to women wearing masculine things except to point out we wear em out and about and don't give a flying rats azz who sees us wear em ............... so you see we ain't ashamed to borrow masculine things to wear, we don't hide it
I allow myself to set healthy boundaries ..... to say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does.
Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and living a life that is true to me
because as a whole our sense of style and fashion is mind-bogglingly bad.
I don't think it is
I allow myself to set healthy boundaries ..... to say no to what does not align with my values, to say yes to what does.
Boundaries assist me to remain healthy, honest and living a life that is true to me
psychos i never knew ppl thought of us like that. Damn all that hiding was for nothing ppl never knew i was just your normal person that watches smallville and reads game informer.
This is bad
Good bye i'm at wacko taco .com now
Don't base it all of one bad experience. there are more than less people who accept us and many others don't even care. and if they look at you in amusement i bet they wish they had the same confidence as us. and why is that alcohol gives you more confidence lol
Well there is MANY reasons for this. And its a hard truth to accept.
First off. Go on myspace and look up differant Crossdressing groups. Do this and you will notice a pattern. What do you see? You see that 70% of the Crossdressers are faceless, they only upload pictures of their unattractive rear ends in panties or thongs. Some of the CDs I met are full blown perverts. So at the moment, we don't have a very flattering image.
Second, a good portion men will lie to their wives and significant others, some even more dishonest ones will go as far as to steal from their wives wardrobe without permission. Because of this, we are commonly viewed as dishonest.
Until the community in general gets its act together, there always will be intolerance.
Hi.
I would have to say for acceptance you may need to look a ways out from the states .i did think that if the home town you lived in, to be out & about you would need to move away , not so unless its so redneck that nobody would wont to live there any way & yes in oz e there are a few place s like that tho i v not seen it so same detail i got on well with people there as well ,
we, Jos & i live in waimate in n z & i m well known . & in our two bigger towns & again well known . so what does it take for acceptance , for my acceptance i told people what i am who i am & why . simple really , it was not those people who needed to understand who i am .
It was i, who needed to accept that others would accept me, thats the problem , & yes we as kiwi s in the main accept difference more easyerly
,i m not saying every one , i dont get hassled , people look as most people look at any one to see how they are dressed . what they have thats different ,
Dont you do the same , you talk about others looking at you . so turn it around see it from there space then you might find the problems you think you have are really not there .
Do you smile at them when you pass even say hi . oh may be not . i do to many people . & again not every one as many are deep in thought or looking down , so what or how do you act or react in your daily lives , & what changes when you are dressed as female s ,
...noeleena...
Well like most of the girls and I do mean girls ,There are alot goimg on in life that we feel needs to change and most will in time some of us would like that sooner so would I, but as was written the news is not helping any of us and this has to stop we all need to get back helping each other in all way , I feel that us gals have been blessed we can see and feel bolt sides and from this site I feel has help me become more lady like in all the niceer ways,P.S MY girlfriend and I were taking about the same thing the other day she also feel like I do , and has said to me many a times she love the bolts of us ,I also have not been outsude but someday that shopping door will open and then the world,
Trish
There is nothing wrong with it and it is our job to show society just that ,
( might be a good idea to keep me locked up though)
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]Joanne
Transvestites are portrayed as psychos in movies so maybe that's how people identify with us. As you know there are few people that doubt Hollywood or the great Dr.Phil. But in reality we are mostly hated by the male populous. They fear us and don't worry they fear the gay men too.
But sometimes when I get dressed up I ask myself if I'm losing it ? or have I totally lost it?
Jeanna
guilty lol i think well be accepted in a few years and be portrayed as a person and not a weirdo
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[SIZE="2"]Psychos? You mean psychopaths? Like Norman Bates in Psycho? Mental illness?
I think it comes down to laziness, lack of interest, unwillingness to see the inherent variety in life (or purely the lack of inquisitiveness), etc, etc, etc. Some people do and think the way they are told or taught, while others make up their own rules for reasons of personal happiness. I fall into the latter category, and I don’t think of myself as a psychopath. I’m here, so I might as well look around and explore a bit while I can, trying everything available to me – not to do so would be criminally psychopathic, thinking in terms of psychological well-being… [/SIZE]
[SIZE="2"]Very well said. I’m not, therefore I am to others who are or may be themselves, if that makes any sense…[/SIZE]
The only psychos are those people who are close-minded.
Whenever I have worn a skirt in male mode, there have never been any issues at all.
I think in the end Kelly hit the nail on the head. If you're uncomfortable with your own self image, you probably assume "society" is as well. Most likely society doesn't give a rip.
But from what I've learned about you so far, you're a young person just beginning dealing with a lot of issues that every human faces...in terms of their sexuality, social acceptance, etc. Its completely NORMAL to have doubts, to be curious, to be self conscious, to explore as we become ourselves...a process we all go through (I mean all in the most inclusive sense).
I must agree with you here!
Sometimes I like to carry around an axe or chainsaw when I am en femme, laughing uncontrollably in falsetto.
(Notices the glare she is catching)
WHAT?!?! I didn't do nuthin!
I mean the cops find ONE body in your car trunk or blood stains in the closet with body parts and right away it is "Oh these TG's are psychos!"
It takes a true Erin to be a pain in the assatar.
um---that would be me
The population is general has an agenda. If you don't interfere with said agenda, you don't get noticed. The media also has an agenda. To get attention. You don't get attention when you aren't noticed. Everyday people are not noticed. SO the media needs to get something noticed. Man in dress robs bank...that's news. Man is dress goes to grocery, not news. It has been that way forever. Do your job, do it well...not noticed. Go into post office with .357 noticed.
Until we make the media quit using us as pawns to get butts in seats (Psychos and clowns) and start portraying us as members of society, we get to wear those labels.
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“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.” - Fred Rogers,
well,as for me, I am now wearing exclusively female jeans, I will not buy another pair of mens ever again.. and I am also wearing some women's shirts, though they are somewhat androgonous in their style.. But they have a shape to them, and are very comfy... I wear women's shoes, flats, look somewhat like a semi-casual men's shoes.. It's a start... I always underdress, and that includes bra.. my wife knows, and she doesn't like it much, but is being ok with it.. It's a far cry from a dress and heels, but it's a start none the less... And I must say my butt looks real cute in them jeans..
Even if you ARE the sharpest tool in the shed, your still a tool.
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