Let's say your wife's cousin is staying over for one night. You remove all vestiges of female clothing from your office / spare room. You remove all the packaging from recent purchases from well known plus-size outlets. You forget to remove the three clothing catalogs from the nearby bathroom, one of which has your male name printed on the address.
You think you hear the cousin chuckling to herself the next morning. Should you be paranoid?
(Guess what! This refers to my situation. I'm only out to my wife and a couple of friends who are thousands of miles away)