why not educate people about crossdressers by being a paragon of society who just happens to dress like a woman....giving out a letter to people will make you seem like a nutter in reality, so how about letting your actions speak for themselves...
still from what I see, theres lots of crossdressers educating their spouse, and society....unfortunately they are telling them that a crossdresser is a dishonest cheating sexual deviant who dresses like some slapper soliciting and has no family values....
yes, we are judged by our actions, just make sure your actions give the impression that you wish to convey