Hi, some of you may remember that when I introduced myself, I said I couldn't let my dad know - he's 88 and I don't think that he will understand about transgender. The only cases of cross-dressing (apart from comedy acts) that he is aware of are people like Boy George and Eddie Izzard who he dismisses as queers and perverts
Now, it has come to a point where I need to find a way to tell him because I will soon be seeking help from my GP with a view to transitioning sooner rather than later. I don't feel like I can put off telling him much longer, but I don't want to hurt him. What should I do?
He has noticed a few things but so far doesn't seem to have put 2 and 2 together. The latest was when he came into my room and I forgot I was wearing my sandals not boy-shoes
I am taking notes from the sticky about how to tell an SO, but this is different and I could really use some advice as well as some moral support.
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Here is my first attempt at answering some of the questions that I think are relevant:
Are you gay or bisexual?
Neither of those things, this isn't about sex it's about me feeling like I was born in the wrong body
Do you want to become a woman?
Desperately
Do you want breast implants or surgery?
That might come later, but not at this stage
Are you mentally ill?
No, this is not an illness
Do you need to see a doctor?
I will be seeing a doctor because that is the way to move forward towards becoming the real me
Are you going to try to stop?
I fought this for over 45 years, thinking that there was something wrong with me, or something sick or evil about my desire to wear women's clothes and to become a woman. Now I have come to accept myself, I feel much freer inside.
Is this some kind of kinky sex fetish?
This has nothing to do with sex
What will our neighbours/friends/ your employer think if they find out?
I'm not sure about the neighbours, I believe my few real friends will accept me for who I am, my employer has supportive policies already in place.
Who can I talk to about this?
???
Wearing women’s clothes seems morally wrong to me.
This is not a moral issue. When you were younger, women were not able to wear slacks in everyday situations but now no-one thinks anything of that. I feel freer to be myself when I wear a skirt or a dress, and now I want to be able to do that openly without causing you any hurt.