You date men all the time but you don't like "admirers"? Your dates don't like trannies?
Listen T-girls, this is not fantasy land. We have MEN'S bodies. I know how we may feel about that, but the sad reality is that Mr hunky straight man is NOT going to date us openly. He is NOT going to introduce us to his friends. There are plenty of great looking and interesting guys out there who like T-girls but apparently the problem with them is they LIKE T-GIRLS so they're just too damn creepy.
My favorite guys are the ones who look, act and identify as "straight" but let's be serious here. I know and you know and they know that what we do together in bed isn't exactly "straight". It's not exactly gay either but that's because we're T-girls!
Some of these guys are indeed awful and they have about as much chance of getting under my skirt as they would Sarah's but just because a third of this group is disgusting doesn't mean the other guys aren't worthwhile.
Somebody brought up the undercover CD's who are out in secret and probably cheating on their wives. So maybe they hook up with some of these grubbier chasers. They deserve each other as far as I'm concerned, but they're grown up people doing grown up things.
I have had a fling or two, but it's ALWAYS on my terms. I'm not desperate for male attention as somebody said, but if I want to go out and play with the boys, and if I find myself attracted to someone, and if I end up sleeping with them, then I'm afraid that's just what's gonna happen and there's not a whole lot you're gonna do about it.
I don't need another mother, I'm not all that impressed with the one I was born with.
Sarah, I generally love your posts but we're gonna have to agree to disagree on this one. I hear what you're saying and I even agree with your opinion of some of these losers but I think you're way overboard with your characterization of men who like T-girls and the T-girls who date them. I submit that EVERY man who would openly date one of us is an admirer. If he didn't appreciate our unique difference then he wouldn't want to be with us. What is so wrong with that?
Reine, the reason the fantasy doesn't fall apart is because the fantasy doesn't go that deep. When I'm with a man, I know he knows what my anatomy has in store for him. He knows I know and neither of us pretend. Some guys like to ignore it, some guys don't. Each one of us has different needs and desires. My femininity is innate. I feel the way I feel no matter what I'm wearing or who I'm with. I have a penis so I use it. What else am I supposed to do with it? I don't have another way of getting it done. I will say that if a guy seems overly interested in that tiny appendage then I tend to lose interest in him and he won't be getting any happy time. ...but that's just me and there are many many gurls who know how to wield the sword if you know what I mean.
I also feel like I need to say that my opinions are firmly rooted in the CD/part time tranny perspective. The rules may change a bit for those girls that are full time and/or pre-op. I personally know some ladies that have had relationships with men that might have been otherwise straight. My presentation isn't quite there yet.
-Misty