To answer the first part, I didn't even have a name for it still until I came across this website. I'm only 25. I've also developed the courage through success stories on here, to go out dressed en femme. I was scared as shit but I was able to do so without getting beat up for it, so I started dressing more often.
As for telling my partners, it's been an up and down ride. the girl I'm with now is not only cool with it, but very supportive. Most of the people who know me or that I meet are fine with me being trans, even though some don't want me around when I do, which is fine, even among just people I meet, as long as they're under about 50.
From what I can tell, people are far more accepting, but there's still a long way to go before we catch up with parts of Europe with our acceptance of people's personal lifestyles. But we're making a lot of progress.