What is with you crossdressers?

[Sarah Doepner]

Karren,

It seems that Hon gets used when you want to show you care about the individual but don't know their name. Flo can't know every customer, but if she treats them like family, she gets bigger tips. Around here we all have some kind of name, so there shouldn't be a problem.

When I'm out and about I'd be happy with "Hon" over "Sir", "Buddy", "Mac", or "Hey You, Fella. Yeah, the guy in the skirt. No, the other guy, the one in the blue skirt." You know, that sort of thing.

[Ashley Allen]

Hmmm this thread seems odd to me.

I don't call peeps hun too often, but think I do have in femme. But that'snot what makes this thread seem odd. All my life I have had women GG call me hun. Clerks at stores and waitresses especially. It's a commonly used casual term of endearment in the world I have existed in, and until I started openly CD'ing I had never met another CD in my life.

As I stated it's more common to hear GGs use it, my SO uses it with her sisters and friends all the time. My Nana uses it, but then she falls into the older generation. My daughters even use the term hun, and I don't mean occasionally.

It's the most common casual term of endearment I've experianced between strangers in our society and that's why I find this thread very odd. Maybe I really come from Venus or something!!!!

[Karren H]

Hmmm this thread seems odd to me.

And that surprises you because? Odd is my middle name. I thought about doing a test yesterday and calling my wife "hon" but the thought of all the possible repercussions and pain being involved...

Don't ya just love the smell of controversy in the morning.. Lol.

[JOY445]

Ha Ha , nice question.
I get called honey, sweetheart, darling at work in male mode at work, so "hon" here is less than I'm used too. (unless I don't manage to fix their computer problem, in which case its ... useless £$%@ !!!)
But since I personally have never used the word myself on this forum I guess I won't reply to this post. oops

i like to be called Honey by my wife however im dressed...i dont see how the diminutive is any less affectionate....well to each their own!
you can call me hun if you want...ur so pretty, you could call me anything you wnat hahaah...nice to meet you hun
love joy

[suzy1]

I had never had any contact with another C.D. girl till I found this site early this year.
So I got lots of warm welcomes from lovely girls calling me Hon, which gave me a thrill and mad me feel happy.
Don’t spoil it for me.
Better than you are likely to get here in the U.K. Sweetheart, yuk!


SUZY

[Ashley Allen]

.... calling my wife "hon" but the thought of all the possible repercussions and pain being involved...

Oh I hear you load and clear on that level.

Try sitting down on the couch in drab sometime and casually pick up the nail file and start buffing your nails. Normal enough right? It may not even get a verbal response... but the dirty looks until you become aware of what it is you just started doing... enough said. giggle... it's all good

[Annette_boy]

I am from Baltimore and hon is a common term here and is even celabrated with its own festival,any excuse to party and lots of us here call everyone Hon.
Hugs "Hon"
Annette

[Lexine]

Would "sweetie" count as part of that Karren?

[Karren H]

I am from Baltimore and hon is a common term here and is even celabrated with its own festival,any excuse to party and lots of us here call everyone Hon.
Hugs "Hon"
Annette

See... I just knew there had to be something more than just the evil Ravens.... Why I have never been to Baltimore!!

Would "sweetie" count as part of that Karren?

I could let Sweetie slide by only if their were Stanley Cup playoff tickets involved!

[Mirani]

Courtesy prefix of "The Honourable"

The younger sons of earls, along with the sons and daughters of Viscounts and Barons are granted the courtesy title of "The Honourable" before their name. This is usually abbreviated to "The Hon." The title persists after the death of the holder's father, but it may not be inherited by the holder's children.

So there!

[Frédérique]

I might get blasted for bringing this up, but I wonder if it is irksome for you because it seems like an affectation .. a way some members like to emphasize their femininity?

[SIZE="2"]Thanks for pointing this out. Speaking as a male (by birth), displays of affection are considered to be a weakness by other, stronger males. Hey, I think I know what’s going on around here!

Personally, I like to display heaping spoonfuls of anti-maleness wherever and whenever I can. It makes me smile, and I feel good afterwards. What’s the point of taking this feminine form if you’re not going to distance yourself, at least in some degree, from your male self? I don’t get it… [/SIZE]

I'm almost afraid to say this, but the only other place I hear these terms used excessively is within the gay community. It's almost as if there is an attempt to be familiar in order to achieve a group cohesion.

[SIZE="2"]Why would you be afraid to say something like that? This particular “community” of ours could use a little group cohesion, since we can’t even agree on what to call ourselves…

You know, if your name is Attila, “hun” may be appropriate, and perfectly acceptable…[/SIZE]

[AmandaM]

What a Ditzy Broad!

[kristinacd55]

And there's another good reason I'll never move south of the Mason-Dixon line ever again! Lol.

Welp, hon is a big saying way down SOUTH here in Jersey too. South of the Trenton line. lol

[Renelle]

Good gravy, is this thread still going? Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think it was started in jest and it somehow turned serious.

For the record, out here in the wild west, the only places you'll hear "hon" is in truck stops, casino's, and bordello's. Of course, about all we have around here are truck stops, casino's, and bordello's, so you hear it a lot.

[rachellegsep]

I will always remember it as a Scottish term of endearment. (Spoken by a friends mother in a thick Glaswegian accent lol )

[ReineD]

[SIZE="2"]Thanks for pointing this out. Speaking as a male (by birth), displays of affection are considered to be a weakness by other, stronger males.[/SIZE]

But peppering posts with "hun" is not always display of affection. Many times it does sound condescending. Snippy even. You know, overdone. The displays of affection, which I and I'm sure many others wholeheartedly appreciate, come in the form of a lack of sarcasm and a tolerance for other people's opinions. I'm not speaking of your comment (it was not sarcastic ), but in the many intolerant responses there are in this forum; responses that are saturated with the male ethos.

[SIZE="2"]Why would you be afraid to say something like that? This particular “community” of ours could use a little group cohesion, since we can’t even agree on what to call ourselves…
[/SIZE]

Again, this can be achieved through overall respect and not by adopting superficial and perhaps even disingenuous mannerisms.

[darla_g]

Actually in Baltimore (Bawl-more in local speak) it is common for everyone to be called "Hon". But that seems gg rather than CDs, but can't say i know many CDs around these parts

[Karren H]

Good gravy, is this thread still going? Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think it was started in jest and it somehow turned serious.
.

We may never know and I'm not telling. Lol

I thought "hun" had something to do with Atilla??

[Mirani]

nah the Hun were the 1st WW enemy!

[kimdl93]

As a typically reserved yankee and Scandinavian, I can say that we're not big on terms of endearment generally, and certainly not with casual acquaintances! I save "hun" for my wife.

[Karren H]

nah the Hun were the 1st WW enemy!

Then that's two strikes for "hun". I think we can safely say "hun" is associated with bad things... The jury is still out on "hon". Lol.

[NathalieX66]

Actually in Baltimore (Bawl-more in local speak) it is common for everyone to be called "Hon". But that seems gg rather than CDs, but can't say i know many CDs around these parts

And there's even a "Hon"-contest in Baltimore....blame it on John Waters:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OHYwoJVeqew

[Raquel June]

What an odd thread. Saying "hun" certainly doesn't make my list of top 10 ridiculous things CDs do as a failed attempt to be feminine. It's just people trying to sound cute, and I don't think it's particularly unnatural.

The bad ones are the 50-year-old CDs trying to sound like 10-year-old girls by typing *giggles* ... although not even 10-year-olds type that. Nobody types it except CDs.

Lighten up Francis! I don't see anything wrong with the Hon label. It's like the other short names or titles used in everyday life like Babe, Sweetie, etc. None of them bother me. Just don't call me late for dinner.

Just don't tell us what you're thinking of doing with your big toe.

And BTW, my GG GF calls people hun quite a bit (especially her patients - she's a nurse), and she's a 29-year-old black girl from Ohio.

She also is kinda fond of complaining about stupid things my gender-confused friends do trying to be feminine and why nobody's interested in her giving them a little advice from a GG.

[Renelle]

Originally posted by Raquel June

Saying "hun" certainly doesn't make my list of top 10 ridiculous things CDs do as a failed attempt to be feminine.

She also is kinda fond of complaining about stupid things my gender-confused friends do trying to be feminine and why nobody's interested in her giving them a little advice from a GG.

My apologies if the quote thingy doesn't come out right, but this gives me an idea. I'm heading over to the "ask the GG's" thread and see what their "top 10 list of dumb things CD'ers do" would be. That should spice-up the conversation a little. It's getting too serious around here.

[Margot]

Karren sweetie; I think you need to take a chill pill.
Margot