Why is it that I like to crossdress when I know I could never be passable. I want it to go away, or atleast find someone that I can be with that likes it, or is completely ok with it.
Why is it that I like to crossdress when I know I could never be passable. I want it to go away, or atleast find someone that I can be with that likes it, or is completely ok with it.
Don't worry about being "passable". It's more about how you feel. Trying to fulfill someone else's standards is next to impossible my friend.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
If you're at all like me, I would be willing to bet that from the first time you dressed it was the feeling of the clothes, maybe the feeling of femininity or other intense emotional responses that have brought you back again and again. It is not so you can impress someone else - you're doing it for yourself.
Look, having angst over not "wanting" to have this desire is normal. I also go thru the same stuff, lots of times I've wished I didn't have this terrible burden.
What you need to realize is that it's not a terrible burden. If you're in a relationship and not out, that's a burden... one that you've got to deal with ... but other than that, it's really OK that you like to dress as a girl.
Every person out in the world has doubts and unhappiness about some aspect of their life. Most of us struggle to be as tolerant of others as we can be; some do not, and those are the folks we, as crossdressers, are afraid of. When we don't know whether someone will be tolerant of CDing, the doubt seems overwhelming.
Like me: I can talk a good game about being out-and-about while dressed as a girl... but I feel the same nervousness as others, when expressing my femininity in this way, because I know it's not universally accepted.
To put it another way, we're afraid of other people's *opinions*! Doesn't that seem odd?
Heck, I'm afraid of my own opinions, sometimes. I so desperately want to pass, but in logical moments I know that will never be, and for the most part I'm OK with that.... as long as I don't take pictures of myself, since "the camera never lies".
To make it short (haha), what Denise Rhodes said.
Why do you like it, because you have good taste
Crossdressing is a lot of fun, but I know what you mean, it would be good to have SO to share it with. Good things come to those who wait (or is that cop-out? )
In the meantime just enjoy all it has to offer.
Most of us have this fetish start from something that either happened during childhood or as an young adult.
Barbie Girl in a Barbie World
"loves tights"
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Either because you are transgendered in some way, or it is a fetish.
For me, I'm a transgendered CD (not transgendered TS).
And it's a good thing that I like it, because it is something I have to do. If I didn't like it (even though it can cause relationship issues which I don't like), it would be hard to live with.
DonnaT
It seems as tho you need to find a way to understand these impulses
We could help you more if we had more information on whats going thru your head really....
For many of us, no matter the reasons, dressing stays with us all our lives. Most likely it will not go away
Understanding your reasons for crossdressing would be the best place to start
Denise said it completely right. It is all about how YOU feel, not the rest of the world!
As far as I am concerned, the only opinions that matter to me are my own, my family members, and some very close friends. Other people don't count, or matter!
Go out and be yourself! You will enjoy it!!
Stephanie
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
Hello i dont look passable either and i am still in the closet and basicly living a lie for my family however when i dress up it feels like i am flying without wings. for me crossdressing brings me true happiness.
You obviously enjoy crossdressing. Don't worry about others. Most don't care. Few notice even if you are not close to passable. You are who you are, enjoy what you enjoy. Even if you supress this, it will always be part of who you are. Enjoy it. Enjoy it. Enjoy it!!!
Freddy
I used to be worried about Passing as a female, but over my time and development, I have come to realise that if I am happy with who I am, it doesnt matter what the world thinks
Lots of Love,
Miss Kara
A man cannot exist without a woman, but a woman can exist without a man. Who is the lesser gender?
This is a good question.
Lets see --- is it because I like skirts. They're cool and comfy and look nice. Nope -- not that, because I also like to wear a kilt in boy mode, and my kilt (actually 3 of them) are cool and comfy and look good too. So there has to be something more.
Lets see -- I like stylish cuts and colours -- hmm --- well there's some boy stuff like that which I don't mind wearing.
Lets see -- undies -- panties -- bikini cut -- no fly -- nice colours and patterns. Nope -- seen boy's undies just like 'em.
Maybe -- just maybe -- its because I look at an item of clothing and say -- hmm -- I like that. And I wear it.
Oh -- and it turns my wife on
Huggles
Toni-Lynn
--I'm TN (transnationalist) - a Canadian born in an American's body! I stand on guard for thee!
passing takes a long time. Think of it like a teenage girl working for all of those years on different looks, before they finally settle on one which they like. Teenage girls practice all of the techniques which you think must be mastered in just a few weeks or days. It takes years sometimes to find the right look. The right hair style and you look almost passable. The wrong hair style and from a plan the passengers can tell that you are a cd'er.
Michelle
I CD because I feel like I'm James Bond, but in women's clothing. I can slip into seemingly familiar situations without anyone treating me the same way as I would if I were a boy and it allows me to take a personal inventory of myself in the process.
There's a lot of different reasons why people CD, and I think really the most important thing is that it satisfies your needs rather than getting too hung up on the "Hows" or "Whys."
I've started giving it more thought lately, but I honestly couldn't tell anyone why I crossdress; I don't know myself.
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I have no idea why i like it but i know i can't stop. I've tried so many times but i'll always go back.
I know i can't pass but i'm sure with more time i'll get it right one day...
it excites me physically and mentally
I found someone who is completely ok with it, to the point of being downright encouraging [my wife]
Her answer to the question
"Why is it that I like to crossdress when I know I could never be passable." was.....
"Because it's a part of who you are!"
I guess that answer is appliable to most of us
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It makes me feel sexy! I definitely have a feminine person that is inside of me. Gender rolls are far to defined. A woman can be rough, tee-shirt and jeans person and that's OK but a man that is smooth and likes to dress in skirts and makeup is a freak? I think a lot of men live in denial and that is a sad fact!
I love to crossdress because it allows me some escapism and freedom to express my inner self
Maybe in order to understand mankind, we have to look at the word itself: "Mankind" Basically, it is made up of two separate words..."mank" and "ind". So what do these words mean? It's a mystery, and that's why so is mankind.
On a serious note, I have always believed that whoever came up with the concept of a "walk-in" closet, is ultimately responsible for starting this whole thing.
then again, I may be wrong...I don't think I can be serious after all...
HaveFun/BeHappy
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i totally relate to this topic.
I look absolutely horrid when i dress up, even in cute things. I will literally never look even remotely like a female, despite how bad i may want to. Still there is a little part of me that enjoys it.
It really would be nice if i could either look decent or never enjoy it.
For me, I don't really care about being passable, since at this point in my life I can't go out dressed anyways, but fifteen years ago, I could and did, and was reasonably passable. But my main point is that I crossdress, even if it is just at home, because I just love the feel and look of feminine clothing, and I especially love wearing real high heels. And for me, that's enough of a reason to just keep on doing it.