Being transgendered

[NathalieX66]

How does anyone discern the difference between fantasy and self-realization? Does it matter? ....just askin'.

[Kathi Lake]

There's a difference?



Kathi

[kellycan27]

There is a difference when you live it everyday 24/7. The fantasy part kind of slips out the window.

[Karren H]

I don't even know what self-realization means?

[Gerrijerry]

for most they both start the same way. for the trans person it feels correct inside it is not about dressing in female cloths but looking the way you feel. For the crossdresser it is something that makes you feel good for a short time stress releif or sexual but just more for fun and excitement.like breaking the rules (almost like going fast on a highway)

[SuzanneBender]

Fantasy is walking down the street in the hottest fashions arm in arm with the ladies of sex in the city. Fantasy is about you and only you. It is narcasistic at best.
Self realization is being the best person you can be. For most of us it involves accepting who you are and how you fit in the world. Self realization is walking down the street in a comfy pair of jeans holding hands with your spouse and your kids and realizing that it is better than any fantasy that you could ever dream up.

[Kate Simmons]

The difference is accepting reality "as is" as opposed to making your own. We are quite capable of doing both.

[msniki48]

for most they both start the same way. for the trans person it feels correct inside it is not about dressing in female cloths but looking the way you feel. For the crossdresser it is something that makes you feel good for a short time stress releif or sexual but just more for fun and excitement.like breaking the rules (almost like going fast on a highway)

Gerri, i must say that is most inciteful....never tought of it that way...but it is so true .

thanks for making me think

[linnea]

I think of the difference in very much the same way that Gerrijerry does.

[Vicki-Z]

There is a difference when you live it everyday 24/7. The fantasy part kind of slips out the window.

I have to agree with Kelly.

Vicki

[Sheila]

I don't even know what self-realization means?

Here you go Karen ...... google the idiots best friend ......... I use it a lot

Webster's dictionary defines self-realization as:
"The fulfillment by oneself of the possibilities of one's character or personality."

Seems a good definition to me

[noeleena]

Hi,

Oh dear you mean whats real & whats acting or make belive.
Fantasy , to belive your some thing you are not .

Now i dont have a problem with that if in its own context you know its not real.

For this kid my life as a woman is real no play acting no trying to be some one im not & the best part, is being accepted for who i am as a person in thier own right,

& yes , ........ it does matter a lot .........to me to know who you are & not try to be what was being accepted that you should be by others , had enough of that for 50 damm years , sorry those ?? really do get to me .
Im just..... so...... thankfull iv had 12 years to be able to be my self . & YES a WOMAN.,
...

...noeleena...

[Angiemead12]

Im still in fantasy mode coz Im stuck at home!

[Jenny Gurl]

Fantasy is walking down the street in the hottest fashions arm in arm with the ladies of sex in the city. Fantasy is about you and only you. It is narcasistic at best.
Self realization is being the best person you can be. For most of us it involves accepting who you are and how you fit in the world. Self realization is walking down the street in a comfy pair of jeans holding hands with your spouse and your kids and realizing that it is better than any fantasy that you could ever dream up.

Very well said

[Deborah Jane]

Fantasy is when you walk into a bar and think you're the hottest chick in there and thinking everyone is drooling over you
Reality is when you walk into a bar and know one even gives you a second look

[morgan51]

I agree with Susanne and Kelly I feel very right and happy just being myself 24/7

[MissKara]

To be honest, if I wasnt still living at home with my mother (Who said she would have a heart attack if she saw Kara), I would be Kara 24/7.

Lots of Love,
Miss Kara

[Sarah Doepner]

I would suggest that fantasy is one step in the visualization of where you want to go. It is the "Reaching for the stars" part. Self-realization is knowing how far it is possible to move on that path and is the "while keeping your feet on the ground" part.

As with so much else we do, finding the balance between them is so important and so difficult.

[Joanne f]

Fantasy is maybe something out of the ordinary you would like to do and self realisation is something that you needed to do , although i am sure you could fantasise about doing what you need to do as much as doing what you have fantasized about doing .

[Suzy Harrison]

For me fantasy was just dreaming of how I'd love to be

and

Realisation was when I discovered that it was possible after all

[Andromeda]

Fantasy is early form of of self-realization. Because fantasy is a form of exploration it is the first step to self-realization. Without fantasy we can only be what our parents and culture have trained us to be.

[Mistybtm]

Fantasy is early form of of self-realization. Because fantasy is a form of exploration it is the first step to self-realization. Without fantasy we can only be what our parents and culture have trained us to be.

Very well put. On my off days from work i am 24/7 the only time i dress in drab is when i go to work or have errons to run, othere than that i am always dressed.

[Jonianne]

Fantasy can be practice for realization or it can be fantasizing just for fun, a way to get to where it would not be possible or practical in real life.

However believing and living in a non-realistic fantasy world keeps you from getting to where you really could go. They used to call that "pipe dreams".

Self-realization or self actualization (in Psychology: the achievement of one's full potential through creativity, independence, spontaneity, and a grasp of the real world. Dictionay.com) is when we are able to live the life we previously strove for and dreamed of.

[olga]

The difference is accepting reality "as is" as opposed to making your own. We are quite capable of doing both.

“I reject your reality and substitute my own” (Adam Savage, Mythbusters)

For me the most difficult part is to figure out how much of my fantasy is actual reality pushed away by guilt and fear.

I’m working on it… and it’s a fascinating process, although very painful at times.

olga

[Traci Elizabeth]

Fantasy is what we dream for ourselves. Realization is the courage we have within us.

Hopefully the former begets the latter!