When i cross-dress, i don't change any part of my personality. I only change how I sit and how I walk, and of course the voice. All of little quirks and kinks, and what not are manifested over. Depending on my mood, I'm either submissive or dominant.
My SO knows about my cross-dressing, (that was a great story btw)so when we do our thing. It's either when I'm male or female, doesn't matter. In our out of bed, it's an equality thing. Even in bed, it depends on my mood, dominant with her and submissive with her no matter the "mode" I'm in.