This was taken from The Chicago Area Crossdresser's forum. It created a lot of activity, more than any post I've ever seen. I'm just wondering what the feelings of the members here is on this account.
I am simply in shock over the treatment I received at Marshall Field's State Street today.
While I was shopping around 11:00, in drab, a particular sales girl happened to be very nice towards me, asking if I needed any help, smiling nicely, being friendly, coming back to me a few times while I looked around, etc.
I'm at the point where I tend to think it is pretty obvious that, even in drab, people can tell by the way I shop, touch the clothes, etc, that I am shopping for myself. Today, I couldn't help but feel this sales girl knew and was just being helpful, so I asked her if I could try on the two skirts I was carrying. She smiled and said "OK".
After being in the fitting room for about a minute and a half, a different sales girl came into the fitting room area, (we'll call her the mean sales girl), knocked on the door and said "Sir.". I said "Yes". She then said, in a forceful mean tone, "This is a WOMEN'S (emphasis added) fitting room and you can't be in here".
Then the nice sales girl, who had evidently walked in with the mean girl, said, "I'm really sorry". I could tell in her voice she thought she had made some kind mistake, and was genuinely sorry.
At this point, standing there in a short skirt with two sales girls right outside the flimsy door, just inches away, one demanding I leave, I felt very vulnerable and all I could say was "OK.".
Then the mean sales girl began walking out, saying "I'm calling security".
At this point, terrified of what some security guard(s) might do, I got dressed and left as fast as I could. As I left the fitting room area, the nice sales girl was waiting outside and apologized again, saying "I'm sorry". She seemed to feel genuinely sorry for what had happened. The mean sales girl had left, obviously hell bent on her quest for security.
It is important to state that the fitting room area was your typical store arrangement, with separate "cubicles" and doors for privacy.
Has anyone had a similar situation? How did you respond? I feel that I want to complain, as, regardless of store policy, the mean girl could have been more humane, especially in light of having obtained permission from a sales girl. What good it will do, who knows?
I have actually tried on clothes and lingerie at several different stores recently, in drab, where the sales girls were nothing but helpful and had no problem with me trying on anything I wanted, often coming back to the fitting rooms and asking how everything fit. I guess I was getting used to the feeling of equality. Interestingly, I'm seeing more and more women going into dressing rooms with their husbands/boyfriends when they try on clothes.
I'm going to post this to a couple of other groups, to get as much feedback as possible.
Thanks for taking the time to read this and giving me your thoughts.
Here's my thoughts - First of all I applaud her for having the courage to ask the sales girl if she can try on the clothes rather than buying then, taking them home and trying them on there and have to return them because of fit. But once she committed to walking in that dressing room she should have prepared herself for a negative reaction. I would have expected, rather than been surprised by, someone objecting to me using the women's dressing room, particularly if dressed as a man. (Just for the record, the entire floor was the women's department and there were no changing rooms for men on this floor.)
Since she recieved permission from the first sales girl I believe she had the right to do so. I read many replies to this where the respondent expressed feelings of improper treatment or prejudice against crossdressers and wondered when society will accept us. My thoughts here are this person's actions, fleeing the store, constituted consciousness of guilt - she acted like she was doing something wrong when she fled the store. If she was upset by what happened she had every right to take her case to whatever employee would eventually settle this as a Field's employee gave her permission to use the women's dressing room. If you want respect and to be treated properly, don't act guilty by running away when things get dicey. I would have expected Fields to have settled this in a dignified way had she stayed to fight for her rights. Fleeing only confirmed the 'mean' sales girl's contentions that this was wrong. 0.02