Are you really?

[Kate Simmons]

Are some of us really as accepting of diversity as we claim to be? I've noticed both here and chatting with some folks privately that they may have a problem accepting some certain life styles. Many just want to be accepted for their CD or TG status and let it go at that but are unwilling to be tolerant of such things as B & D, S & M, "Little Girls", Furries or what not. It's like: "Okay, whatever but not in my back yard". It may not be our personal "cup of tea" but as long as no laws are broken or no one is hurt, I don't see a problem with acceptance or tolerance.

My point is in any of these varied and sundry lifestyles, I look at others for who they are as people and not that they are "this, that or the other thing", otherwise it amounts to the "pot" calling the "kettle" black. We may well interact with all of these types on a daily basis whether we realize it or not, they could be anyone really just as we are. It takes all kinds to make a world and as soon as we get that, we will make some progress. As CDers we should be the last ones to point the finger at anyone else. What do you all think?

[ColleenW]

I couldn't agree more with you Denise. As long as we're talking about consenting adults what difference does it really make?

PS: See you in Never Never Land

[Michaela42]

Well, I try to be. Am I always successful; oh hells no, but I try.

Things of a sexual nature are fine with me (as I have some rather odd fetishes myself) and as long as no children or small animals are hurt. I do have a bit of a problem with public displays of affection, regardless of genders. A kiss or holding hands, no problem. Hands in each others pants pockets, mmm, kinda pushing it. All out grope sessions in public, yeach. Get a room!

[docrobbysherry]

Is that u wrote this thread with the SOLE intention of getting me all worked up!?

Well, I'm NOT biting!

Today, I feel like fetish dressers r COMPLETELY ACCEPTED HERE!

[Loni]

what goes on behind closed doors stays there.
and as long as no children or animals are involved and no body is hurt. all is ok. just maybe i do not want to hear about it. even your straight sex things, or toys.

i am not very interested in what you and yours does, it is your thing...not mine.
i guess i am boring in this area, i like one (GM) and one (GG).


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[kellgrl66]

Well said Denise and agree whole heartedly. I have noticed at events some girls that have had srs or hrt look down at those occasional cders like they are just amatuers in a game.

[Billijo49504]

Well I agree about as long as there are no children involved. But I used to do security for a camp ground, and we had several gay couples there. They wanted to know what my feeling were. I told them I had no problem with their life style, but it's not for me. And I just had a great time at the West Michigan Pride celebration....BJ

[donninacd]

Well said Denise and agree whole heartedly. I have noticed at events some girls that have had srs or hrt look down at those occasional cders like they are just amatuers in a game.

I've only been on here for a month. What do "srs" and "hrt" mean? I've figured out some of the other things on my own; for instance, GG seems to mean "genetic girl"?

As for the thread, yes it definitely seems like there is a divide even right here amongst this community. Go figure

Thanks....D

[Charleen]

To each his/her own. Live and let live. Do what you will with harm toward none.
Just don't shove it in my face!

[Céleste_B]

I've only been on here for a month. What do "srs" and "hrt" mean? I've figured out some of the other things on my own; for instance, GG seems to mean "genetic girl"?

As for the thread, yes it definitely seems like there is a divide even right here amongst this community. Go figure

Thanks....D

SRS means Sex Reassignment Surgery
HRT is for Hormone Replacement Therapy

[TxKimberly]

I am a firm believer in a few concepts like:
"Those who live in glass houses shouldn't be throwing stones"
"Treat others as I would want to be treated"
"Live and let live"

If I expect and want to be treated well despite what I am, then I need to take that attitude with others. As you said, as long as it hurts no one, what is the problem?
I've never messed with BDSM but wouldn't bother fibbing to you and saying that I had absolutely no interest in it. I find strong and confident women immensely fascinating and interesting.

[Jenna Lynne]

I've only been on here for a month. What do "srs" and "hrt" mean? I've figured out some of the other things on my own; for instance, GG seems to mean "genetic girl"?

SRS is sexual reassignment surgery. HRT is hormone replacement therapy. If you've had or are planning SRS, you'll almost certainly be doing HRT. But the opposite is not guaranteed, as there are women who prefer not to have surgery who nevertheless use prescribed hormones.

Feel free to ask any and all questions! There are no dumb questions, only people who are feeling so intimidated that they're afraid to ask.

*** Jenna ***

(Blogging about gender at jennawillow.wordpress.com)

[Lorileah]

I've only been on here for a month. What do "srs" and "hrt" mean? I've figured out some of the other things on my own; for instance, GG seems to mean "genetic girl"?

HRT= Hormone replacement therapy

SRS (or GRS) = are both reassignment surgeries, more specific and PC than "sex Change"

We all have our own perspectives on things. I think tolerance for the most part here is not an issue, acceptance less but still well above the average. I am in the same boat as Makialia with there is a time and place for a lot of things. And yes I have moments when I see something and go WTH? They really don't do that do they?

One thing I see most agree on is children and small animals. One question though when do animals quit being small and are considered fair game? (There will never be another ewe)

[Jenna Lynne]

To each his/her own. Live and let live. Do what you will with harm toward none.
Just don't shove it in my face!

I pretty much agree ... but cautiously. As Lady Astor is supposed to have said, "I don't mind what people do, as long as they don't do it in the street and frighten the horses!" (In those days, runaway horses were a serious hazard on the streets.)

However: We need to recognize that for people of a certain cast of mind (often religiously inspired, I'm sad to say), simply going out in public cross-dressed is very much "shoving it in their face"! They want us to be invisible. And that's a horrible violation of our right to simply be ourselves.

So I think if we're uncomfortable with something that someone else is doing ... in a restaurant, maybe, or at a club ... the place to start is not by blaming them but by questioning ourselves. What is the root of our discomfort?

*** Jenna ***

[Céleste_B]

Things of a sexual nature are fine with me (as I have some rather odd fetishes myself) and as long as no children or small animals are hurt. I do have a bit of a problem with public displays of affection, regardless of genders. A kiss or holding hands, no problem. Hands in each others pants pockets, mmm, kinda pushing it. All out grope sessions in public, yeach. Get a room!

Aside from adding that as long as no children or animals are involved & not simply hurt, I feel the same way as you Makaila.

Kind of weird that I can cringe when seeing all grope out sessions in public, but I have no problem watching romance movies with the same hot groping sessions in them. Maybe that's because I imagine myself as being part of the movie...(at least the female part of it)

[Kate Simmons]

Your comments are appreciated my friends. I will say though that none of the folks who responded are who I had in mind when posting this. Let's see how it goes.

[Rianna Humble]

Are some of us really as accepting of diversity as we claim to be?

In my old life, I set the standard for diversity no the local council where I served. I was also indirectly responsible for he first lesbian councillor to serve in that town, and set up separate forums for L, G, B & T employees (since they did not want a single LGBT forum).

As far as lifestyle choices such as BDSM, provided that it is between two consenting individuals who have reached the age of consent, I have already proved in my old life that I have no problem with the practice but it is true that I would not want to witness it personally.

I was also proud to be responsible for HR on the Council when we introduced Civil Partnerships and the first couple were two men who reported to me.

I would hope that I have not let any of that tolerance slide since I accepted that I am TG.

[Kate Simmons]

Is u wrote this thread with the SOLE intention of getting me all worked up!?

Well, I'm NOT biting!

Today, I feel like fetish dressers r COMPLETELY ACCEPTED HERE!

Not really RS. You know we love you here.

[Karinsamatha]

How could I have issues with what other people do behind closed doors? I very much agree with what was stated in other posts children and animals should be off limits.
Judge not lest you be judged.

[Joanne f]

I am all for diversity , i love to see what other people get up to and some of it looks like fun as i always say "don`t knock it until you have tried it (providing it is legal of course) ,i have no problem with people that might be a bit different than me or should i say that are willing to try something different than me . maybe i will try something

[kellycan27]

I am too wrapped up in my own little world to care about what others do. Live and let live.

[mklinden2010]

I think "diversity" is just poppycock thrown about to smear the good and decorate the bad. If everything is equal, then nothing is better or worse. BS. Dangerous BS.

CDers don't have the be the last ones to point fingers. From what I can tell some CDers are pretty smart and some CDers are pretty dumb. At any rate, why the hell should I get in line last - to express an opinion? Freedom to speak is freedom to speak for everyone.

I do care that people conduct their private lives, personal lives, with some intelligence and decorum. I don't want my face rubbed in your wealth, or, your poverty. Deal with your business in life and leave me to deal with mine.

"It ain't what you do, it's the way what you do it."

[Kate Simmons]

Sometimes I just wonder why some people bother joining a social site to begin with, if they don't want to discuss things.

[Joanne f]

Sometimes I just wonder why some people bother joining a social site to begin with, if they don't want to discuss things.

Diversity, Denise, it makes some people happy to complain about it and that is what i like about it

[AKAMichelle]

I think we all claim to be accepting but then when faced with a particular situation find it difficult to accept at first. Notice the word at first, because eventually we do come to accept it. However there are some things and situations which I can't accept and never will. So if that makes me a hypocrit then so be it.