Hey all, haven't been able to contribute much on here lately because since moving I've had a lack of a lot of free time for internet posting and such. But I've had a customer come into my work here a couple of times, and something about her has bothered me when she comes in and I just wondered how others felt about it.
She's an obvious crossdresser, doesn't pass, which obviously isn't an issue for me. What bothers me about her is the way she behaves when she comes in. There's something over the top about all of her mannerisms, not in a drag type of way where it's stagey or diva-ish, but more like she's trying to be really fluid and feminine in how she moves but is waay waaay waaay overcompensating and instead she literally seems to fling her body around as she moves. It comes across as extremely affected and unnatural and is really offputting for everyone she comes into contact with including me. On top of that is her voice, she's attempting a feminine voice but she's again way overdoing it, it's very high pitched and obnoxious and somewhat grating. On top of that she's kind of rude. The guy she was with asked me a question about where something was and I was telling them which aisle it was in and she cut me off and went "Nope! not there, try again." and then kept cutting me off as I tried to tell them where the item was. After she staggered away, I went down the aisle and found the item they were asking about.
The thing is, I deal with annoying customers a lot. I may get frustrated with rude people or such but with her I find myself really bothered when she comes in, I guess because I can see how much attention she draws to her, and I see how every time she walks by someone, they react. Every group of people giggles behind her back or has a "holy crap" type of reaction. I guess that's what bothers me, because I feel like she directly creates a really negative image of crossdressers for people who otherwise don't get a lot of exposure to us. I know I should be more of a "Hey everyone has their own way of expressing themselves" type a person but is there a point where it's kind of ok to judge another person, or at least wish they were a bit more aware of negative an impact their behavior has on others?
I guess in the end, some people are just obnoxious or rude people and how they dress doesn't change it?