ive had several little conversations lately -- all containing hints and implications, but none of them getting anywhere really.
after we visited my family, and my mother took my wife for a shopping trip, i mentioned that my mother said that she felt bad that she hadn't done anything for me. my wife said to me, "you can have one of my swimsuits." (there was one she wasn't crazy about.) i said, "with the luck ive been having with swimsuits lately (i had two lose their elastic) . . ." she replied, "don't even think about it."
shaved my legs (and a lot more) for a triathlon recently. at bedtime, when she got in bed, she was wearing long pj pants. i said, "you should take those off so you can snuggle up with me." she said, "this is just a little wierd for me honey -- i'm supposed to be the one with smooth legs." (she had actually told me a few days before, when i was really stubbly: "you need to shave.")
today, i came into the bathroom and she was painting her toenails. she said, "why are you standing there watching me?" i said, "why not?" she said, "it feels like you want to paint *your* toenails." *i change the subject.*
we've had conversations about my 'feminine side' before, and they always end up causing serious problems which are only resolved once i more or less forget all about it or we pretend the problem never existed.
i so much want this to be a part of our lives. but she'll never see me the same again -- she'll lose respect for me and won't be attracted to me anymore.
feeling stuck.