Just thought I would throw this idea out there….Since joining the board, which I admit has been relatively short. I have noticed something with the couples that are open about the cd’ing. There are various degrees of integration regarding the feminine aspect of the individual by both parties involved. I find when the individuals refer to this feminine aspect as a separate entity unsettling at best.
I think the more that we can accept all people as multi-faceted, the better for the individual, the relationship, society etc. I think the more we know people as individuals with the inherent calling to express, to create some form of uniqueness the happier and more peaceful this world will be…ok bringing it back to this thread?
In the cases where this feminine aspect is really identified as a separate individual reminded me of my something from my own experience. I have had several polyamourous or triad relationships. Whenever I have talked to someone about those experiences. I always tell them it not for everyone, not even for everyone who thinks it is for them. You think you know yourself, or your partner or the relationship…well hang on for the ride of your life. When there is two of you the dynamics are pretty simple (you, me and we) With a third or more the dynamics become more and more complicated. Now
I am not staying that there are no relationships like this that functioning well…there are, but they are far and few between and the individuals really need to feel that they are getting at least something close to what they are putting in….it takes a lot of time, energy, and constant commitment.
What I see here is that some people are essentially in triad relationships (me, he and she), and without really be conscious of what this means. I think it is almost inevitable that the “me” comes up feeling shorted as far as time and energy, affection etc.
Again this is just my observation, and it may hold some validity, but just from a mental health stand point, I think the more the cd’er accepts them self and incorporate all the aspects of their personality the better.
[SIZE="3"]“I yam what I yam…”. -Popeye[/SIZE]