I have been going to therapy for a few years now to enable my to discuss what I am feeling and to have an outlet to express my femme thoughts. Now over that time i have always had female counselors and i am now starting to work with a third. The first two had babies and have either cut their hours way back or stopped working. My question is do any of you see a male therapist and if so how do you relate? I tried one session and it just felt awkward.
Its been some years now, but I chose a female therapist deliberately. first, I felt that women are generally more empathetic and second, I didn't feel comfortable, at that time, admitting that I was a CDer to a male therapist. My therapist at that time was perhaps a few years older than me. I have to say, she was great in helping me work through my gender ID issues...got deeper into the whole thing that I'd imagined we'd go.
I'm not sure that would be an issue today, but I go to a female Family Practitioner...so I guess i'm just more comfortable with women in these roles.
Hi Sara
I have seen a female therapist twice recently with a doctor from the clinic in between.
I felt much more at ease with the female than the male doctor.
Once I realised that he was experienced with TG people and was not fazed with anything I said there was no problem with opening up fully to him.
My GP left me with a bad experience when I finally told him what my situation was. It was most uncomfortable because I think he was shocked.
Therefore my mind was already influenced by this, but I still think it is easier to talk to women
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Philippa Jane
I have a regular therapist and a gender therapist, both of whom are female. My male GP also tends to try to act like a therapist, but he often doesn't realize what he is implicitly saying.
Taking in to account that therapy is often not operating at the rational level: when my female gender therapist tells me that I'm doing something in a more female way, or is telling me that there are a lot of women that do not have traits similar to the books about how women think, then it is easier for me to feel the truth of that than if a male were to tell me.... there would be some "Yah, how is he supposed to know?!" hold-back in me, I think.
Then too, it is more reassuring to have women accept me as female (or at least as enough of a mix to not be considered "male") than it is to have guys look over and see me dressed and maybe gesture as female. An "I feel like that too" from a woman is more convincing than a male saying "I've known women who have indicated feelings similar to those".
Likewise, there would be a definite feeling difference between having a male tell me, "Hey, boobs would look totally sweet on you" vs having a woman tell me that I look good and the bust looks appropriate on me and that implants or HRT-grown breasts on me would probably be widely accepted by women.
Therapy is not about what we know from books and reading: it is about how we feel about things, and at this stage in my travels, I feel it easier to deal with female therapists.
I chose a female doctor mainly because her office is less than a mile from my home. Plus 30 - 40% of her practice are CD/TG. I do open up to her in a way I never could to a man. Especially when going to sessions dressed or discussions about my sexuality.
I thought I'd like a female to talk to about my gender issues. But when I called the place I was referred to, they recomended Peter. Well I thought I'd give him a chance, and see what he was like. I found that I really clicked with him. And next Thursday I get my hormone letter. From what he says, he has worked with a few cross dressers over the years. And he is the only one that does that for his orginization. So it is working out great for me...BJ
My Therapist is female and I chose her for two reasons, she works with many TG/CD individuals and she is a female. I don't think I could have began therapy knowing I had to reveal my feminine side to a man. That said, I really like my therapist and she has helped me tremendously. She has recomended an endocrynologist to me which I will see next week.
Rach
I have thought about going to a therapist, and would be more comfortable with a woman.
I have a question, what is the reason you go to a therapist-is it to better understand yourself so you can express that part of you? or to try and change who you are in some way?
I have thought about going for both and don't know if I would be wasting my time on one or the other?
I specifically chose a female therapist because my gender identity is female. Nothing against male therapists, but I just didn't think a male could relate to me and my desire to come out to my wife, as well as a female would. I want her perspective from the standpoint of being a GG.
To better understand who I am and to figure out ways to integrate those needs into my life. I t took several tries until i found a place that has staff that know how to counsel Tg/CD clients.
I chose a female therapist because I felt I would be more comfortable taking about my gender with a woman.
I go to a therapist to help find some answers about myself and help in dealing with some family problems. My therapist has experience working with TG patients but doesn't specialise in gender therapy. I always go as Stacey but sometimes I never even talk about my gender issues. I have other family issues that can easily take up a session.
I also chose a female therapist because I do not relate well with men and felt very at ease talking with her. She recently retired and my file was transferred to a gentleman therapist. To my surprise I really hit it off with him and for once I can talk with ease with him.
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Tamara
I guess I am the odd "man" out so to speak. After I came out to my wife about a year ago, she encouraged me to see a gender therapist. I searched around and found a therapist who specialized in gender issues, who also just happened to be a male. I saw him three times and we emailed several more. It was a good experience. He helped me get over my guilt about CDing,(not exactly what my wife was hoping for). I don't think his gender made any difference in our visits.
Jaydee
Like many of the gurlson this thread, I sought out a female therapist because I didn't feel comfortable talking about Christy with a man. I thought a woman would be more empathetic.
Another post asked why therapy and for me it was to try and figure out why. Not so much to get cured or to gain acceptance but to learn why so I could try and manipulate whatever that may be to control the desires to express Christy.
This is my 2nd bout with therapy with th efirst morphing from the cd issue to emotional vacancy unrelated to cding. money down the proverbial crapper with that one. after a handful of visits this time around, we are only talking about this issue and what it means to me and my wife. So far, so good but still don't know why. I am not sure I ever will. Maybe still will find self acceptance so regardless, money well spent.
After my divorce 18-years ago I went to a male therapist and I didn't feel comfortable talking to him about my cross-dressing.
I have been thinking about going again only this time I want to see a female therapist as I am hoping she will understand about enjoying wearing all feminine attire. I may even go there dressed as Sharon.
I don't have a therapist lol do i need one???
I chose my counselor because I had professional dealings with her over the years and found her to be very good at what she does. The fact that she is female is coincidental. As long as you can trust your counselor gender should be immaterial.
Not necessarily. A whole bunch of things in my life were not going well when I started general therapy; after a time I got to a personal crisis in which the question of what I wanted out of my gender life become an important factor, so I started going to gender therapy as well.Originally Posted by shaq91
If you are depressed, or angry, or feeling that life is slipping you by, or feeling that you would like to tell someone but don't know how, or feeling that you would like to take your CD'ing further but something in you is holding you back (e.g., fear of what others will say), or upset with yourself about the fact that you CD... any of these would be good reasons to go to therapy.
My ex's did! The counselors were BOTH very good and to the point! And the second was VERY HELPFUL! Regards my mental state upon separating from my wife. NOT my CDing! Which she blew thru in about 20 minutes!
My divorce attorney was also female!She was GREAT!
I USED to think therapy was CRAP! Now, I can TRUTHFULLY say, " Don't knock it until you've tried it!"
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
Male doctor. Female therapist. Both are great, specialists and deal with the gender cases in this area. I'm still slightly uncomfortable with the male. But he was the one that got all of this moving. Arranged for me to get welfare, since I was on poverty limit, and was qualified for support. It was a TS friend of mine that took me to see him to try to get medication, and sent me on to the specialist. Things are not moving fast, but at least something is happening. At the welfare office I also deal with a female. But she makes me slightly uncomfortable, as she does not understand. Very nice though, but don't understand what is the problem. The therapist understands better then me....so she is amazing. I have full faith in her judgement. She is also very experienced with these cases.
I am like the other girls.
"I also chose a female therapist because I do not relate well with men and felt very at ease talking with a female"
I've been in therapy a long time now. Started off with a male therapist in 1962 at age 14. Over the years i've had many different ones male and female. The male ones on different problems usually,although some were linked to my gender disorder. Their sex never had any bearing on what i could tell any of them or how they helped me thru issues.The same can be said of all the female therapists that i've seen. A therapist is only as good or bad as you let them be,they only can help when you are honest and willing to listen. None are miracle workers,they are only human like the rest of us.I have recommened that several posters on here seek professional help, find one that you can be comfortable around, one that will listen to you and hear what you are saying and not what they think you mean. A therapist can be a godsend in helping you to accept yourself and in dealing with your own particular issues.
Danni
I do not see any therapists, but I probably should be, lol.
I would always choose a female. "Takes one to know one".
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About a year ago, other, job related issues were cause me a great deal of stress and depression. So I sought a therapist's help. I did look for one that had experience with gender issues as I knew I could not separate these issues. She happened to be female. As we went along, she also suggested couples therapy and recommended someone who shares their office suite. He happens to be male. He also deals with gender issues quite a bit. They were both very good. In my case, gender of the therapist didn't make a difference to either me or the outcome.
As I think about it, as far as strangers are concerned, I have no problem admitting that I am a CD. So going to a male or female prefessional isn't biased by gender.
Leann
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Female therapist.
I didn't think that I'd be able to discuss intimate details to a male therapist.
I have no problem telling my female therapist that I'm wearing panties, or going wig shopping, or to the tailor to have a gown altered. I've dressed for some sessions when I feel like it.
I don't think I could be that open with a male.
My problem not his. My therapist's office is a judgement-free zone, and I think that would be true for a male therapist office.
Hi, I'm Steffi and I'm a crossdresser... And I accept and celebrate both sides of me. Or, maybe I'm gender fluid.
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