Let me begin by saying my opinions are biased by my personal experiences, just like the rest of the human race.
Divorce is an adversarial arena where both parties have intimate knowledge of each other’s strengths and weaknesses. We all know the rule about emotions having no place when making business decisions. But what do we do during a divorce, when the whole game is comprised of emotions? Answer…listen to your attorney, lol.
Hey, I always like to play doctor. I also like to play lawyer every once in awhile just for variety…let’s begin…
...talking to your wife here...
Ok Mrs. AKA Michelle’s wifey, soon to be “ex-y”…
Your goal is to spend the least amount possible on legal fees and to maximize your awarded share of the total joint assets of the marriage at the end of the game, right?
Even when both parties enter the divorce process with amicable negotiation intentions, there is typically a point somewhere along the line, when it disintegrates into a war. So, the longer you can maintain a peaceful and cooperative relationship with your partner, the more you stand to gain.
Thus, the objective is to resolve as many settlement issues as possible before communication breaks down. This is accomplished by fostering a “friendly” approach with your partner and first discussing only those issues that you know will not “push his button”. The longer you can keep him happy, the more issues you will resolve on your own, and the more money you both will save on attorney fees. The other factor is the longer you keep him “friendly”, the more he is likely to be willing to “give you” and “agree” to in your favor.
In addition to being “friendly”, you should also identify some joint assets that you really have no attachment or interest in. When negotiating, these items will be the ones you will “give up” or “trade” in exchange for something else (that you really do want.) (It appears you are giving up something you cherish, when you actually are not). Just a little negotiation strategy…
So, your first assignment Mrs. AKA Michelle…is to go home and be as friendly as you can with AKA Michelle…stroke his ego…whatever it takes to keep him happy as long as possible. Because once one side strikes a nerve with the other…the battle is on and things get ugly and expensive to resolve….
Ok, our time is up for today…see you tomorrow…don’t forget to bring your checkbook…
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There, just playing devils advocate…
So, the question remains…”is it (she) REAL, or is it (she) MEMOREX (hidden agenda)?
…”only her hairdresser knows for sure”…
Then again…maybe she just magically “changed” overnight….hey, anything is possible on the Internet….hehehe
That is just my 2 cents worth…you owe me a penny
Good Luck…