
Originally Posted by
MichelleL
[SIZE=3]I need to preface my remarks by stating a couple of things. First, this is only my opinion and I do not feel that I have the right to impose my opinion on anyone else. Second, I don't have a dog in this fight. I don't have any children and I have never thought (and I still don't) that I would ever be able to "pass" as female and I would never even think about going to a public place in a bikini.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]I thought about these posts over night and was hoping that someone might post something similar to what I am thinking but no one has.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]I try to live my life morally. In other words, I try, in everything I do to consider how my actions affect others. I try to put myself in the other person's shoes and think about how I would feel if I were in their position. Do I always succeed? No. I have done many things in my life that have had impacts on others that I regret. In those cases, I try to make amends by apologizing and letting them know that I understand and regret any harm I have caused them.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]Do I think that cross dressing is immoral? No, of course not. What one does to their own body and how one chooses to dress are that person's own responsibility and right. Do I think that being heterosexual, bi-sexual or gay is immoral. Once again, no. How one chooses to express their sexual self is that person's own responsibility and right.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]With that understanding, I think I can proceed to explain my thoughts on Carrie's wife’s and Hope's posts.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]I believe that it is not only every parent's right to raise their children with their own moral values, it is every parent's responsibility to teach their children what is morally right (and every parent has their own beliefs about what is morally right and wrong).[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]I also believe that we, as adults, must understand that children are exactly that. They are children. They are in the formative stages of their lives and are progressing toward being adults. They are impressionable and vulnerable and it is the parents' responsibility to protect their children from harm so that they can become responsible and happy adults.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]When I consider how my actions may affect others, I have to take into consideration a lot of things. First and foremost in my mind is the understanding that while I may have the legal right to do something, that does not mean that I have the moral right to do it. While I do have the legal right to preach to others about my religious beliefs, I do not feel I have the moral right to do so as I believe that each person's religious views are their own.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]The reverse can also be true. I may feel that I have a moral right to do something that society has deemed to be illegal. (I am human and I may ultimately be right or wrong about the issue but I do have my beliefs.) In that case, It is my responsibility as an adult to attempt to change the laws that I believe infringe on my and others' rights. I can go about doing so in many ways and this is not the place to get into that.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]There are also the situations where what I and society believe are morally right coincide. For example, society (in general) has decided that I have the right to get drunk and doing so is legal. However, society has also decided that I do not have the right to get drunk and then get in my car and drive. Why has society made these decisions? In the first case, society has decided that what I do to my own body (getting drunk) is my personal decision and responsibility. In the second case, society has decided that even though I have the right to get drunk, my rights in that area stop when my getting drunk may infringe on another’s rights. By driving when I am drunk, I am endangering the rest of society around me and I may even kill someone. Because I understand that my rights stop when they infringe on someone else’s rights, I agree with those societal decisions, rules and laws.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3]Now, on to my beliefs in this specific case. Because I believe that it is Carrie’s wife’s responsibility to protect her children and to raise them in the way she believes is morally right, I believe that it is my responsibility to defer to her beliefs. If I can go to an adults only location (and I can) to wear my bikini publicly, then that is where I should go to do it. I understand then, that if I go to a location where parents and their children will be present, it is my responsibility to defer to the prevailing moral opinion. Do I feel that I have given up something? Of course I do. Am I willing to do so. Yes I am. I am willing to do so because I understand that I do not know everything and that I may be wrong in my belief that my actions won’t harm the children. I do not have the moral right to take that decision away from the parents.[/SIZE]
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