Hi All, crossdressing falls naturally into the submissive role I have in my marriage. Our power exchange is kept entirely at home just like my dressing up. Expressing my girlie personality and always complying with my wife's/Domina's wishes dovetails nicely with one anothers personalities. Who else feels this way?- Marsha
......and here I thought that I was going to learn alittle something about transmissions and possible even a torque converter.
Itall depends on what you want torqued! Do the lot us have a sexual taste expressed through Mistresses, FemDomes and dominate women? I strive to more than be a gurl. I want to give in to my deep desire to emotionally and physically please my wife/Dom. Any thoughts anyone?
That's what I was thinking. Lol. Why is "tranny" so derogatory to me?Originally Posted by Nataliebabe
I definitely don't think its a nice word. It's most often used in a negative response towards us. ( "look at the tranny", "eww,its a tranny",etc ). Many other lovely things I've heard. It's also a word that has been used in portraying us a clowns.
In recent months,there was a celebrity in the paper here and I wasn't a fan of her outfit and makeup. I start to read the caption below and, "she looks like a "tranny", is in front of me. I really wasn't happy.
My understanding has come to be that,this word is very derogatory and used as a stereotype of us.
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Well, it's something that's often appealed to me, although I'd also consider it a case of "be careful what you wish for". What would I do, for example, if I found myself with a dominant woman who wanted me to submit to her desire that I conform to a more traditionally masculine role? (Actually, I have fantasized about that sort of thing before (I know, I'm weird). Still, I've been smart enough to realize that that sort of arrangement would probably become insufferable within about five minutes in real life.) Still, if you've found an arrangement that works for you, more power to you. I think the right sort of dominant/submissive relationship would be wonderful!
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I don't connect CD'ing with submissive at all. If anything I find it empowering. As Linda , I am strong and assured. Out with friends, I tend to be confident and often the leader in various ways .. different strokes for different folks - I guess ..
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Hi once again, no offence intended by not using TV, CD or crossdresser. We all know the cultural bias we face (and why this site is a wonderful oasis for us). The topic I'm wondering about is whether your relationship with whomever has a Dominant/submissive aspect to it. My example of my wife and me at home was to be a reference to what dynamic anyone else may have in their life. Outside the house there's not a chance anyone would even suspect I crossdress, unless they note I'm a lot more keen to comment on what they're wearing. As her servant I try to anticipate what she may need or like and provide it for her- doing that little extra that makes her feel special. Taking care of the house has the added benefit of giving us more time together, regardless if I'm dressed up. No doubt some of us have a stronger give-and-take and others where it's not as strong. I'd love to know then, what accommodations you have to make things work. Thanks.
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LOL not Me, I feel quite the opposite--but then that's what makes life interesting
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I believe "Tranny" describes ME better than "Trans"!
Be careful what U wish for, Lashed! Over time, my ex gradually became more and more Dom in our relationship. By the time I said, "Enuff!', it was TOO LATE!
Warning! If your SO is doing that and u begin to resent it, PLEASE! Tell them! Before it's TOO LATE!.gif "Big Roll Eyes")
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
I think that there is a natural tendency for women to please, to do what is necessary to keep a mate, to ensure their nest has love and tenderness, is clean and healthy. There was a study done that said many successful women were not satisfied by the competitive world, the world of men. So I would assume that having the desire to be a woman, means also having the desire to please, or in other words submit.
Unfortunately we have diminished this role believing that submission is fraudulent human behavior. I disagree. It is merely doing what one believes is necessary to create the world they enjoy around them for the benefit of themselves and those they love be they male or female and be they the head of household or not. I also by no means desire women to be kept in a subservient role to anyone (especially men) that would take advantage of this role.
We've been together for over 25 years now. Ours is a strong, happy and supportive marriage. This is a new evolving aspect of our lives. I just wanted to know if anybody else had some experiences to swap.
I believe there is a a misunderstanding of the underlying principal here. When you enter into a long term relationship, there are two words you need to memorise and chant like a mantra as necessary (which will be often); "Yes dear." Do this and almost all of your marital problems will be solved; forget it and all is in peril. This is not submission; just good sense.
ALWAYS plan for the worst, then you can be pleasantly surprised if something else happens!
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Hmmmm..... I have no issue with the term "tranny". If the shoe (preferably a platform open-toed pump) fits, wear it! At the end of the day, labels
[SIZE=4]I do feel the same way as you. I am very submissive when dressed . I have no problem being called a tranny eather, A word can only bother you if you!! let it.
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I think this is one of those words that needs to be reclaimed by the community it has traditionally been used to demean and dehumanize. I think it needs to be one of those words that you can only use if you are a member of one of three groups 1) a tranny, 2) A close associate of a tranny, and then only used in the most positive manner 3) a complete bigot who wants everyone to know that one is a complete uneducated bigot.
There are other words that have undergone this same transformation, words like "fag" or "dyke" or that one that rhymes with "snigger," but has nothing to do with laughter.
"I don't mind living in a man's world, as long as I can be a woman in it." — Marilyn Monroe
Yeah didn't expect this thread, but the word tranny does seem to carry a negative connotation from my perspective.
If I am to be called that, I prefer "Trahnny" like a drag queen might say it.
Ands the shoes, girl what a **** that makes it's wearer! Can I borrow them?
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A rose is a rose is a rose, by anyother name it would still smell as sweet.
Though I completely understand the emotional connection with being called out in a negitive context, I.E. a derogitory name, or a label used in a derogitory context. They are mear words, and words no matter how slanderious should not be hidden from reality as if they do not exist. Tis far far better to hear a bigot tell me whats on his/her mind, then it is to surrender the right to speak honestly and openly on any given subject.
It's become quite popular for the world to speak in specific language, a language that is meant to remove harm or at least emotional harm. Sorry, buy my opinion, if you don't know how much something hurts you don't know what real pain is. If you don't hear the real words spoken you don't know who the realy victim is. We can all make nice and pretend that people will change if we prevent them a spoken world. What happens next when we know they are still think it?
Call me a tranny anytime you want, I'll know by the tone of your voice if it's endearing or not.
The rhyme about sticks and stones is bullshit. If you don't think that words have the ability to do real harm, you are living a much more charmed life than the vast majority of people.
No one is suggesting that one give up the right to speak honestly and openly about any subject - merely that if you want to call a Jewish person a "kike," or a homosexual a "fag," or a transexual a "tranny" and you are not a member of one of those communities using the term in an ironic self-referential sort of way, that you should be prepared to be known as a bigot - because that is what you are honestly and openly expressing.
No one is asking you to be dishonest in your speech, just that you be considerate of others. If that is too much to ask... well... there is a word for people like that.
"I don't mind living in a man's world, as long as I can be a woman in it." — Marilyn Monroe
She should be in charge, she is wearing the pants in the faamily. And you are wearing the panties and skirts...BJ
jus' sayin'
Can we get back on topic? because i was looking for a ft/lbs ratio.....
Sort of like you can use The "N" Word....if your black! Sorry, I don't think we need to reclaim The Word "Trannie." It's been used in too many Porno Flicks where a lot of other people get The Idea we are double-jointed, and Very Bent! Our Community can leave "Trannie" in The Garbage Pail, and that would suit me just fine. I will leave it for Writers and Directors in The Adult Industry.
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PS. My Spell Checker doesn't like The Word "Trannie" either. Wants to replace That Word with "Tyranny." That seems almost appropriate!
The problem with some cars is the owners will mod the engine for more power while overlooking how the tranny is gonna hold up or not.
I would love to adjust the cams on my GM 3.4 DOHC to get more power but if the tranny fails I am screwed.
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