I am noticing a real attitude on this forum at the moment saying "don't do this, don't do that" and "oh just admit it to people"
Maybe some people can't admit it - everybody has reasons. Maybe they would get kicked out of their home, maybe they could lose their job. Something they do as a hobby isn't worth ruining their life.
I have to admit that it hits a side of me when some respond as you said above..but remember (even if not stated), its all just advice.. even though I'm sure some are really meaning what they say only because their life allows them to be so free.. You control your life so take it for what its worth and don't let all the words get to you.. accept it just ADVICE and leave the rest to what you want.. Its funny how I just had this conversation with my daughter..about how I try to keep this side away from hmmm for a better word "normal" life (no offense) as I'm not ready for that.. but I made one mistake to allow someone that close and now I'm dealing with a person who wants to be apart of what I see as my normal life..lol.. no not anyone on here.. anyway, I do agree that just because we dress at times or go out, doesn't mean we are ready to walk to the shoppette in heels and a dress..
Maybe some people need to borrow clothes in order to satisfy their need to cd because they don't have the confidence to go and buy their own, or they fear ordering clothes in case the parcel goes to a family member.
With the exception of the sanitary thing (wearing someone's panties for hours and then returning them in the dresser.. ) or a bra..etc.. that is what most of the issues is about.. and yes, there are many who began their venture that way..by borrrowing..so hopefully that is not forgotten.. And again, take it all as ADVICE and you will be okay..even if the words are as you stated. Some will not understand your situation.. and they should be thankful for that.
I just read in another thread "its not helping the image of crossdressers"
Get over yourself, the image of a cd won't change for anybody born in my generation and I am only 22. It will take years and a lot more acceptance before people are easily accepted.
Where would we be if the world's view on the image of all crossdressers was based on what I did or said???.. yes that comment is made like all others..a reaction of someone's thoughts on the incident. And it doesn't matter what 'group' you belong to, there is always going to be some incident that will seem to tarnish a group..and the next day its old news.. So be you..and the let the rest decide how the 'image' is affected.
I am sure I am not the only person who hates coming on this site and reading that I am a terrible person for borrowing clothes without permission and that I should just man up (girl up?) and tell people.
Sticks and stones.. remember? unfortunately, lately in the media, we are finding out that words do hurt.. most did not have the support they needed or wanted. This is a supportive site with a few bumps here and there..that is where you need to focus so you don't feel that you are terrible person.. only those near you..and the person in the mirror knows that. I was on another site where a 'girl' chastised anyone who dressed and was not considering crossing over to full time.. It upset me, but then I thought "how sad for someone to waste so much emotions just because I (and others) were not in the same line of thought as her"
Situation isn't right to change either of those things right now.
Is it lonely up there on your pedestal?