Didn't read the whole thread, but I just had to respond to the opening rant.
Sure, but to play devil's advocate, a lot more people have wasted their lives by living a lie than have ruined their lives by coming out of the closet. I dare say that the vast majority of CDs on this site have long since surpassed the "hobby" stage and would do well to admit it to themselves. Actually, most of them already have and are probably in a healthier place than you are.
If you're terrified to confide in people, then maybe they're not really your friends or maybe you're afraid your family doesn't really love you. Get your tippie-toes back in reality a little bit instead of perpetuating a bizarre out-of-touch fantasy that alienates loved ones and avoids your real issues. If CDing is this unacceptable thing that you're ashamed of and can't quit and are afraid of having your life ruined by, then maybe you should stop pretending those stolen panties you're hiding are the same as a stamp collection.
And how many things have you "borrowed" and then not given back? Most people aren't going to "borrow" something without asking then wash and dry it and return it. They're going to keep it as long as they want then realize that it be more suspicious to take it back and they would be more likely to get caught, so they'd rather throw it away than return it. That makes it stealing.
And even if you actually did return them, taking people's clothes and wearing them is a gross violation of privacy on the same level as a peeping tom.
If you're not interested in helping the image of CDs, then that acceptance will never come. I'm 35 and I pass pretty well, and when I do get read I'm still accepted by most people. I don't need a self-loathing CD telling me that there's no point in having any self-respect because people are going to look down on me anyway. I'm disgusted by CDs who don't care about the community's image -- the kind of people who only CD when they're out of town, or when they know they won't be recognized, or post disgusting personal ads all over the net and make us all look like jokes and perverts.
Yes, stealing personal items from people who put their trust in you makes you a terrible person.