After reading a thread a few months back and came across a couple of lines I became confused. But there was a debate going on about do CD's think of being with men when dress. Well there were many posters that said that when they are in guy mode they are attracted to women, then said when they were dressed, that they were also a straight female. Then would that mean that while dressed, they are attracted to males, just like a straight female??
As far as I can tell, your interpretation is exactly right. Some people are hetero in either gender presentation.
I'm not one of them. So far,my transition has not changed my orientation so when pretending to be a male, I was regarded as hetero even though I could never envisage myself in the husband/boyfriend role in a sexual relationship. Now I am classed as homosexual, which was probably always true to the extent that we look at who I am inside not what my birth defect makes me appear to be.
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I'm attracted to women regardless of whether I'm in drab or dressed. If I were to transition, I suppose I'd be considered a lesbian
I'm straight however I present - I like women. Even when I am dressed as one, I am not one. That's one reason I dress a little "prudish" - I don't want to attract the "non-fairer" sex.
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I am what I am in either sex. Does it matter? Have to admit I'm also confused though
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Some people believe that, but not me. I think the only way that happens is if the person is bi-sexual or gay in the first place. Some gays try to deny their sexuality as much as we do the fact that we are cd'ers.
Michelle
I think the issue is extremely complex , to the grade that none of the answers are absolutely right or wrong. I have the same thinking of Michelle when I am defining myself..now my therapist think different .. because most of my life I never had attraction to women or men nor even on the hormonal teen years and always questioned my gender identity since child but tried to conform to what society expected from me.
Since I was internally on gender limbo so next thing was to be in orientation as well so I was asexual most of my life... only when I could express a feminine side I could unlock my sexual orientation.
Now I have no problem having sex with the right guy and I think my emotions are evolved to have a more emotional connections with guys and for the first time in my life I feel like I am capable of loving a be loved something I never felt before.
I agree with Barbara.
Very complex.
When I am dressed I . . . have looked at guys.
Sometimes I dress for them also.
I want to see if I can get a rise?
I'm attracted to men in either role, never really been attracted to women, though I do like other TV/CDs!
I'm only attracked to women. I have thought it might be nice to be escorted by a man, as a friend, but no interest otherwise.
I have the same sexual orientation, regardless of how I'm dressed. Oddly, my few experiences with men occurred when I was in male mode.
I'm pretty honest In that I fancy both men and women in either mode
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I'm not trying to speak for any of those who indicated they might be attracted to men, but here's how I read that.
While I have no doubt that there are those who are exactly that way, (kind of a "I only smoke when I drink" thing), I suspect that for most it's just an admission of a harmless titalating fantasy, not something inextricably wired into their psyche.
Hey! Gives me an idea for a new thread!
[SIZE="3"]I'm pretty partial to the fairer sex no matter what mode I'm in. It makes me laugh that I'm actually considered more attractive to certain women dressed than in drab! How nutty.[/SIZE]
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just my wife,but i can look at other women ,it seems i look just as much as what they are wearing anymore as there looks
Well, for some, being with a man while dressed kind of "completes" the whole female experience. So when you're dressed and acting as a woman, being with a man and fulfilling your womanly duties is a way of experiencing the entirety of being a woman. I know I'm not into other men when not dressed, but when I'm fully presenting myself in feminine form, it can be a rewarding experience to be viewed as a desirable female by someone of the male gender.
Womanly duties?! Is there a smiley character for stunned?!Originally Posted by AndreaS
Kathi
I have always thought that my actual self is a lesbian in a man's body.
I don't claim to be an expert on anything! After all, an EX is a has-been and a Spurt is a drip under pressure!
OK, OK. I admit it. I am a has-been drip under pressure. Sigh.
Hmmmm, a couple thoughts popped into my mind after reading your "question". The first was my typical amazement at the creative abilities of the human mind. We are capable of redefining, modifying, enhancing, denying, twisting, diluting, excusing, forgiving, defending, distorting, dismissing, rationalizing, minimizing, explaining, masking and molding damn near any behavior or actions we want to engage in...in such a manner that we can justify our behavior to ourselves and others that it is "OK" to do it.
Let's take smoking..
I quit smoking a couple years ago. Now the only time I smoke is when I want a cigarette...
Self denial and self-deception...tools in every human's toolbox...
"Who's On First" video clip...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wfmvkO5x6Ng
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MANY CDs fantasize about being with a man when dressed. Because they FEEL like a woman and that's what women DO!
( Been there, done that!)
However, few will actually try having sex with a man because they're NOT attracted to men! Some, probably DO TRY IT, then figure out it's NOT they're thing!
I think if they continue to enjoy sex with men and women, they must be attracted to both and r probably bi!
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[SIZE="3"]Wow, now that was funny. There's just no end to your imagination is there.[/SIZE]Hmmmm, a couple thoughts popped into my mind after reading your "question". The first was my typical amazement at the creative abilities of the human mind. We are capable of redefining, modifying, enhancing, denying, twisting, diluting, excusing, forgiving, defending, distorting, dismissing, rationalizing, minimizing, explaining, masking and molding damn near any behavior or actions we want to engage in...in such a manner that we can justify our behavior to ourselves and others that it is "OK" to do it.
Let's take smoking..
I quit smoking a couple years ago. Now the only time I smoke is when I want a cigarette...
Self denial and self-deception...tools in every human's toolbox...
"Who's On First" video clip...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wfmvkO5x6Ng
Lynn Marie
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Wow...great minds think alike. I was thinking the very same thing.
I'm attracted to men and women but don't want to have gay sex with a man much in the same way I'm not that interested in being the man in a male and female relationship. Ideally, if I were to be with a man then it would be as a woman.
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