Something I've Always Wondered

[WsprsOnTheWind]

Being as I've always loved to wear men's baggy sweaters in the winter, and often buy men's jeans b/c they are more comforable....does that make me a CD? If so I don't think it has the same impact for me that it does for MTF CD's. I get no sexual arousal from it and it's all for the purposes of comfort only.

Also, is it typical for the CD to want a woman to dress in skirts and heels most of the time or are you okay with your GG dressing the way she is most comfortable if it is not in skirts/heels?

[AmandaM]

It only makes you a CDer if you either get sexual arousal from it or it helps you get in touch with your masculine side, or both. I prefer my wife dress up, but it's not required. I appreciate women all dolled up. I suspect most men are the same, CDer or not.

[sandra-leigh]

Also, is it typical for the CD to want a woman to dress in skirts and heels most of the time or are you okay with your GG dressing the way she is most comfortable if it is not in skirts/heels?

I think there is a certain amount of "projection", especially for those who haven't realized they are CD or haven't fully admitted it to themselves.

But it is difficult for me to say. I've preferred to see skirts or dresses for pretty much as long as I can remember, so I have no grounds for comparison to say whether it is CD/TG linked or simply one of the varieties of male tastes.

My wife chooses skirts or dresses spontaneously some days, jeans other days. She seems to choose skirts or dresses a greater portion of the time the last couple of years; I don't know if her tastes changed a bit or if she is "inspired" by me or if it is a bit of internal "competition" to be more feminine than me.

I will add something that is probably not Politically Correct. I happen to like to see skirts or dresses; they attract my attention and my sense of aesthetic satisfaction (and possibly of sexual appreciation) in a way that jeans seldom do, and if I see them, I'm likely to Look (not stare.) I think it is healthier for our relationship if I'm Looking at my wife than if I were to continually be looking over at other women if my wife seldom dressed in ways that gave me that kind of good feeling. Am I saying that "my wife should be on show for me" ? No -- but if she seldom was, a sense of "distancing" could develop. The same kind of "distancing" can happen with regards to choice of sleeping attire, if it is such that it tends to act like a barrier to normal cuddling and caressing.

[Josey]

Ditto Amanda"s reply. i love it when my wife dresses to the nines but its not always appropriate unless it happens to be a special occasion. Comfort plays a key roll in both our dress habits whether it's CDing for me or not. I don't think of my wife"s wearing mens clothing in the same context.

[Joanne f]

Now that`s is a can of worms to be opened
Some will say technically "yes you are " and in a sense you are but for the most part society does not see it at that , but ( always that but) some who do dress in male clothes still get frowned upon just as much as we do and it is not always plain sailing for them as much as some on here might imagine, i guess it all boils down to how you are presenting you inner self that might make the difference .

( I want to make it clear that i am only talking about wearing a few items of clothing as the TG issue is something quite different as i think the FtM have it far harder than we do )

[Kate Simmons]

Nope, you are just someone who likes to be comfortable Hon. Any CD or man in general who prefers or insists their lady friend wear dresses, skirts and heels is really missing the point of being with and enjoying the company of a beautiful and interesting woman in my opinion.

[Karren H]

Sexual arousal?? What's that? lol I don't either so does that make me a woman......

I love skirts and dresses not so much heels... I have flats too.. Noting more comfy than a skirt... Women's jeans are just appalling to me!!

[Edwina]

Sexual arousal?? What's that? lol I don't either so does that make me a woman......

I love skirts and dresses not so much heels... I have flats too.. Noting more comfy than a skirt... Women's jeans are just appalling to me!!

That was my reaction too. I dress because I want to look the best I can be and believe me, I look far better as Edwina. It is probably more of an artistic yearning than anything else.

[Cindia]

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My take on this is being a cd and not being able to wear skirts and dresses when ever I wanted, I just think its a waste when a woman who can wear them all the time doesn't. I do know that its not practical to wear a skirt everywhere and I'm sure if I were a female and could do so, I wouldn't be in a skirt 100%, (maybe 95%). I also like to see a woman in a skirt/dress to get dressing ideas for myself, so if I'm looking longer than I should, it's probably because aside from enjoying the view, I'm admiring your clothes/shoes.

[WsprsOnTheWind]

I just wear what I want to wear b/c it's a comfort thing for me. Of course I was taught that anything a woman wears pertaining to a man is wrong and vice versa. That's okay, I'll take my chances and be comfy in what I like to wear.

[Elizabeth Ann]

For me, the distinguishing characteristic of a cross dresser, in either direction, is that they wear the clothes specifically because they associate them with the other gender. That is, cross dressing occurs as much in your head as on your body. If a truck driver wears pantyhose for the support, or a woman wears men's jeans for the comfort, I would not consider that cross dressing. But if I have panties on under my clothes and nobody knows it but me, I am still cross dressing.

As for what I would like to see my SO or other women wearing, I agree with several here that I just like to see stylish women. Not sure it has anything to do with what I would like to wear myself.

Liz

[Danielle Scarlett]

I too have wondered about the lady cross dresser!! I mean,does she wait till her man goes out,then scratch off all her make-upbefore rifling through his wardrobe in her quest for.....TROUSERS?? It just doesnt seem likely,does it? I guess there is no stigma attributed to a woman wearing jeans,a t shirt,and even a baseball cap,but a man stepping out in a frock.....

[Gerrijerry]

Being as I've always loved to wear men's baggy sweaters in the winter, and often buy men's jeans b/c they are more comforable....does that make me a CD? If so I don't think it has the same impact for me that it does for MTF CD's. I get no sexual arousal from it and it's all for the purposes of comfort only.

Also, is it typical for the CD to want a woman to dress in skirts and heels most of the time or are you okay with your GG dressing the way she is most comfortable if it is not in skirts/heels?

I simple do not see any problem with what you wear. If you think that being comfortable is important to you, and not what you are wearing, I would think everyone else should just accept that also. However people have there own ideas of what is proper and I expect they will tell you what they think as well.
As for my SO (wife) If she is happy with what she has on I have no problem with it. She accepts me what more could I ask for.

[Emily Ann Brown]

If wearing a man's sweater makes you a CD...then my Ex is a CD, and she would go out and kill herself because of it.

She liked men athletic shoes, boxers, T-shirts and short hair like a man.


Em

[JohnH]

I too have wondered about the lady cross dresser!! I mean,does she wait till her man goes out,then scratch off all her make-upbefore rifling through his wardrobe in her quest for.....TROUSERS?? It just doesnt seem likely,does it? I guess there is no stigma attributed to a woman wearing jeans,a t shirt,and even a baseball cap,but a man stepping out in a frock.....

Yes, and Jane Smith then goes by John Smith, since that is her masculine name.

Ah yes - the double standards that apply to men and women, as well as men who are too scared to go outside their narrow limits of acceptable attire.

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Emily, that sounds an awful lot like my wife!

[BRANDYJ]

To me, it's only crossdressing when you are trying to look and or feel masculine. Beyond that it's just an acceptable choice of clothes to wear. Society thinks nothing about a woman in a man's sweater or jeans. Usually, when a man wears an article of feminine clothing it is for the purpose of looking, feeling feminine.

[AKAMichelle]

It might be a mild form of cd'ing, but who cares. I don't wear skirts or dresses and I don't expect my dates to.

[Loni]

could be. were is the line supposed to be?
i say ware what you want and feel right in.
as for how i like a woman to dress. sure i love it when she spends time to look great, makeup, clothing, =style. i love to escort a pretty woman to dinner and a show.
just sometimes i love being the woman...but no male escort.

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[Michelle James]

It only makes you a CDer if you either get sexual arousal from it

Since I don't get sexual arousal from dressing as a woman does that mean I'm not a crossdresser. If so what forum should I be posting in? If I'm not a CD then what am I?

[Julogden]

Technically, you're crossdressing, you're wearing clothing made for males.

There hasn't been any sexual connection for me other than briefly during puberty and shortly after when pretty much everything was sexual. ;-)
Before and after that, dressing has been something that just feels right. I'm in jeans and a blouse more often than a dress or skirt, but I do find a casual dress or a skirt and a nice top to be very comfortable. I do tend to dress for comfort usually. I'll take flats over heels unless the heels are required for a special occasion.

Carol

[Pythos]

"To me, it's only crossdressing when you are trying to look and or feel masculine"

So if I get in my vampiress costume, and do not fully act feminine, then I am not crossdressing? LOL

This is such a fuzzy argument.

If a guy wears a skirt, hose and heels, but looks completely male up top, is he crossdressing? Forget about the whole arousal factor. Why does that even enter into it? I have heard of guys that get aroused putting on a tuxedo (blea).

Technically women are no longer crossdressing even when they are. Why, because it is socially acceptable. But there is a HUGE double standard in cultures.

You do know there is some fool in France trying to put across a LAW that bans women from wearing pants? He is working off an old law that still exists on the books but is largely forgotten. Think about that you Women that make fun of or limit what men wear. I would not feel the want to go full on fem if it were not for the sexist unwritten, (and sometimes written) rules out there concerning my choice range in acceptable styles, and women's. I like long hair and make up, and none of these are inherently female. What is inherently female is a lack of a bulge below the waist, and two bulges up top, and very well defined curves.

Most of the rest are social constructs that in my blue eyes need to be torn down and scrapped.

[mklinden2010]

Or, "Do be do be do."

[Stephanie Anne]

Being as I've always loved to wear men's baggy sweaters in the winter, and often buy men's jeans b/c they are more comforable....does that make me a CD? If so I don't think it has the same impact for me that it does for MTF CD's. I get no sexual arousal from it and it's all for the purposes of comfort only.

Also, is it typical for the CD to want a woman to dress in skirts and heels most of the time or are you okay with your GG dressing the way she is most comfortable if it is not in skirts/heels?

OMG this most certainly makes you... enjoy being comfortable. Clothes do not always make the man and our messed up society sees nothing wrong with women dressing masculine so it does not carry the same connotations.

[Pythos]

To add on to my preferences.

I like the feel of corsets. I love how heels feel. I love the caress of a good fitting pair of pantyhose. If you don't, I am fine with that. Just please do not put me down, or limit me based on what YOU feel uncomfortable.

I think that is all I ask for.

I would like my female friends to wear skirts or leggings. Heck I would like them to wear the more fem version of my androg look. But I am not going to "expect" it, like how people "expect" me to be in slacks or jeans with no other viable choice.

[JohnH]

To me, it's only crossdressing when you are trying to look and or feel masculine. Beyond that it's just an acceptable choice of clothes to wear. Society thinks nothing about a woman in a man's sweater or jeans. Usually, when a man wears an article of feminine clothing it is for the purpose of looking, feeling feminine.

Last summer I wore denim skirts instead of shorts, along with a man's shirt and most of the time, a man's pair of shoes or sandals. I did it for the sake of comfort instead of looking or feeling feminine in the hot climate. Right now when it's cool I wear long pants almost exclusively. I'm glad to say I really didn't get many comments, but I got some emails from my pastor for parishioners seeing me wear denim skirts at the local Walmart. After several email exchanges he concluded that I did nothing wrong for wearing the denim skirts, and then I asked him not to bother me anymore about the matter.

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OMG this most certainly makes you... enjoy being comfortable. Clothes do not always make the man and our messed up society sees nothing wrong with women dressing masculine so it does not carry the same connotations.

Women are the brave ones always willing to expand what they wear.

Men are the ones who are the "shrinking violets" who are too scared to wear anything new.