Being a gay CD has its benefits, but its a matter of how you actually see men when you are in drab. I've contemplated this many times, so I know your situation. Is it more of a sexual turn on, or do you actually want to be with men?
Being a gay CD has its benefits, but its a matter of how you actually see men when you are in drab. I've contemplated this many times, so I know your situation. Is it more of a sexual turn on, or do you actually want to be with men?
For some maybe it's not an easy question to answer?
I am a straight male with a wife and kids and have never had a gay experience.
As a CD'er I do THINK about what it would be like to have a physical relationship with a man, but as I am happily married I wouldn't want to complicate things, although my wife would probably say 'try it and see if you like it!'
For me I'm happy to keep it in my head...but that's today....I'm notoriously fickle, so who know's about tomorrow?
CD'ing in my younger days was more a sexual experience...now its something different???
So those who are, then great, those who aren't but might try it, then enjoy
well, being gay isnt a choice, as many have pointed out already. Personaly, im bi with a little more interest for women, especially when emotions are involved.
As for your question, i think that it would be ideal for u to find a fully supportive GG...then u can really be yourself
What a great reply!!! I like females. Guys don't do anything for me (most of the time anyway) But I would really love to have a penis to play with other than my own!! I gave up ages ago trying to figure out what group I would fit in to and just be me. I think being a cd is about as confusing as it gets sometimes and any other issues, such as sexual prferences are just normal life issues.Originally Posted by Danni Bear
My ideal choice?? Hhhhmmmmm to be me and not give a shit what anyone thinks (and they do the same)!!
IF IT FEELS GOOD, DO IT!!
I wish that there weren't labels like "gay" or "straight"! I like people, male or female, for the person that they are. If they are nice, then I usually am attracted to them. I don't really care what gender they are. Physically, I'll admit that I am attracted to a person that has feminine appearances and mannerisms on the outside. But if that person is great to be with, then when it comes time to "take off the pants" then I'm right there just to make that person happy!
Yeah, this is a tough question. I wish I could just change my life. We have all been dealt a tough hand. Well, I guess I'll speak for myself. My life has been very hard. I'm sure there are some people who have fully embraced their hand in life but I am not one of them. I think it would be easier to be gay though.
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When is the world going to be fully enlightened to the truth?
I can't really answer which is more of a hassle. I'm straight and like to dress up when I feel down in the dumps. I'm straight but am fascinated by she male porn. I fantasize about having sex with a she male. I guess its more important to being who you are. I'm straight, like she male porn, and like to wear women's clothes. I'm ok with this aspect of my life.
lmildcd is now known as Lennette Lost.
Labels are important. They define differences and that is a good thing, IF Used Properly. However, it is often the MISUSE of Labels that create problems. For the most part, Gay and Straight people are alike. We want to enjoy our lives, we want to find good and rewarding jobs and we want to be surrounded by welcoming and caring friends and relatives; to name just a few things. However, in some ways we are MARKEDLY different. For gay people, who we find physically and emotionally attractive, and who we want to form relationships with, is different. Because of this, our lives, job/careers, homes and religious affiliations may be particularly impacted. A label is merely shorthand and a rallying point for a particular set of characteristics, in a gross sense. It doesn't even imply that we are all exactly like the label. However, using a label in a divisive way is driven by ones desire to be divisive; not the other way around. If we did away with labels, I really doubt that all the people who desire to be divisive would suddenly go away.
I've had this discussion with several gay people. The only thing that's easier for gays is dating, there are plenty of places for gay folks to meet other potential partners. On dating sites, there's a category for men looking for men, and women looking for women, and there are lots of people there. For us, there's nothing; no crossdresser-straight girl dating sites, no crossdresser-straight girl clubs, nothing; the one site that advertises crossdresser dating is inhabited 99.9999% by men, with a few fake female profiles to get you to pay for membership, you'll get female emails expressing interest until you pay, then they disappear.
Basically, the gay girls feel I'm lucky to be a guy, so I can date all those beautiful straight women that they don't have access to. They don't seem to get the problem that 'all those beautiful straight women' don't want anything to do with a guy who feels like, and often dresses like, a girl.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
Exactly!!! could not have said it better and I am a bi.
Sarab
[QUOTE=sometimes_miss;2349011]I've had this discussion with several gay people. The only thing that's easier for gays is dating, there are plenty of places for gay folks to meet other potential partners. On dating sites, there's a category for men looking for men, and women looking for women, and there are lots of people there. For us, there's nothing; no crossdresser-straight girl dating sites, no crossdresser-straight girl clubs, nothing; the one site that advertises crossdresser dating is inhabited 99.9999% by men, with a few fake female profiles to get you to pay for membership, you'll get female emails expressing interest until you pay, then they disappear.
While I generally agree with your comments about it being easier for Gay men to find dates and hookup places, I think that it should be mentioned that Craigslist, fwiw, does have m4t and t4m categories. I certainly understand that a lot of people are frightened by the possibility of something going bad from Craigslist, but it does exist with specific categories. Also, I have met other TV/CD girls, and men on both Alt and AFF. You might have to sift through a lot of dross to find the good ones, but thee are a few out there. These are, obviously, Meat Market sex sites, and I would agree that trying to find a transgender category on mainstream dating only sites, e.g. Match, POF, or Yahoo Personals is impossible.
Personally, I have no issue with anyone’s sexual likes as long as its legal…..
As for me, I do find the male body to be gross, especially hairy ones. My SO, does like to tell me fantasies about a man taking me when I am Maria and it DOES turn me on. However, I still do not see myself being with a man and I never looked at a man in a sexual way….
A feminine and passible CD or TG yes. I did play around with a TG about 12 years ago, she was HOT and extremely passible and we kept it to oral only.
Does this make me bi? The way I see it, I was with a hot woman with a big clitoris… I am attracted to most things feminine.
Maria
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"If pantyhose can make my legs look this good, imagine what they can do for yours" - Joe Namath
To be Gay or straight is not a choice. We are what we are.
I am bi also I love women and am totally attracted to them and everything about them but I like so many like to feel attractive and wanted also which only makes it natural for me to being attracted to being held and taken care of.
Basically those are for T girls (genetic/phenotype males and mtf transexuals) and such to meet men. There are no women looking for TG males or CD's. Zilch. I've done a search on every dating site I can find. I've run identical ads on other sites, one mentioning crossdressing, the other plain straight. On the plain ads, I get plenty of responses; that alone tells me that there's nothing else about me that is repulsive to women in general. But on any ad that mentions crossdressing, all the responses I get are men and prostitutes willing to sell me their services. That's it. The percentage of women that even might be interested in us is so insignificant that for all intents and purposes, it may as well be zero.
And it's not so much that we all need a woman to take interest, or participate in anything to do with our crossdressing; it's that it seems such a repulsive characteristic to the very vast majority of women, that it stops any relationship with us, dead in it's tracks. In this sense, being gay is a much better situation.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
I've accepted that fact that being TG isn't necessarily connected to being gay. I have a couple of gay friends, and I've told them about this side of me and they still don't get it. In fact, they don't seem to care much.
Ha, just as well......good friends they may be, I'm not attracted to them anyways. One of them takes the attitude that "a hard man is good to find".......good for him, I say. I'd rather be soft, and connect with the ladies. I can't speak for anyone else.
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Lately I've been feeling more gay than ever and my attraction and love to masculinity is stronger than ever and the idea of intimacy with any feminine individual either GG or transgender is a major turn off.
What confuse me somehow is when I am attracted to masculinity is when I want to be the more feminine I can be and I am talking about the whole feminine identity
Are you struggling with transsexual feelings?
I'm not ts but I kinda get what you mean though,although in drab I fancy CDs.when I'm femme though I tend to be attracted to more masculine men
I believe being a gay cd would be more publicly accepting/tolerated than those being straight cd. Being a gay man is not in the woodwork for me. I love women, especially my wife (who has no idea that I cd).
-Enchanting
Well I work with an openly gay fellow....nice enough guy, I suppose, and totally open about his sexuality. No one seems to have a problem with it. If I was to come out as a crossdresser, however....the earth would stop rotating, the building would fall over, peoples heads would explode, etc. So I would imagine it's just easier all around if you're not a crossdresser, no matter what your preference in the bedroom is.
Crysten
"Addicted to Victoria's Secret".
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