Well, I think I screwed up another possible relationship. I am wondering if I inform GG's to soon about Mileena. I used to always hide it or mention it in passing after being in a realationship for quite awhile. I had always felt ashamed, even though I am happy about Mileena. Anyhow, since I have been a member on here since the start of this summer, my confidence has grown to the point that Mileena is part of my everyday life. Not to be rude, but the confidence thing as gotten to the point that I now tell a GG that I am interested in within the first couple of conversations. If I feel that the GG isn't shallow and seems like an open person, I will let them know that I crossdress. I've been single for a year now, and I have found out that most GG's accept it, but don't want to see it. Blah, blah, blah. A few were "supportive". One GG stated the that it came as a shock, but she has always had a fetish for wanting to put makeup on a guy! If I would let her, she was ok with the crossdressing thing. I thought it was great, but after conversing some more, I came to the conclusion, that there wasn't a spark between us. Another GG that I had told, was supportive as well. She was the first one ever to come face to face with Mileena. After she did, it seemed like she was more into the crossdressing thing that I was. She'd make comments about we should go to Vegas so I can go out in public, if I wanted to go out, she'd go with me. She even started to pick out clothes for me. I informed her that I was offended by her picking clothes for me. Natural, things went down hill from there. After we split, I realized that the only reason she was interested in Mileena was so that I would "have to stay with her". Not to be rude, but I have learned that it is wrong to be with someone if they accept the crossdressing thing if there isn't a spark or flame between the two. I recently started talking to another GG. I tell you what girls, she was everything that I have ever looked for in someone. Throughout life, I was never sold on the "perfect someone" was out there. After talking to this GG, I belived I was proven wrong. She mentioned that she wanted to meet face to face one day. Naturally, I hadn't told her about Mileena yet, so the wheels started turning on when and if to say anything. To test the waters, I told her that I hope that I don't disapoint her because I'm not perfect (the thought of Mileena was in my head). She then replied that she knows that no one is perfect. If that special someone is perfect in her eyes, that's all that matters. My heart started racing, wondering if this was an open door to tell her about Mileena. Well, before I could make a decision on what to do, I looked at the clock and saw that I had to get ready for work. Even though we said our good-byes, the wheels in my head were still turning. When I was in the shower, I decided that now was the time. We've been talking and e-mailing for about a week, and she definelty didn't seem like the type that would not hold my crossdressing life against me. So, I e-mailed her quickly before I set off to work. Naturally, my mind and soul was aching to know what her responce would be. Those 8 hours could not have gone any slower. Well, now that I am home and after checking my e-mail. I had to confide in everyone here. It feels as if my heart has been crushed. "Everyone has their own interests and that is what makes us all different. However, I don't think I can understand or want to understand why you do it. I doubt you will be able to find what you are looking for, but good luck in your serach." I won't lie, I am so sick to my stomach. I wonder if I shouldn't have said anything or should have waited longer. I want to be honest about Mileena. However, after this screw up, I wonder if maybe I am to open about it? Just have to keep searching I guess and maybe reevalueate how and when to spring the news and how to define the spark that would would bring about the conversation. Anyhow, I am off to bed (work nights), and I am looking forward to what you girls have to say.