From the high, to the low (My mom died)

[matrioshka]

The last 24 hours have sucked pretty hard.

Saturday was pretty good. That morning I went down to Mass to pick up the costume I had made. I had to go for the final fitting and finishing of the hem of the skirt. I spent a couple of hours with the seamstress and had a blast.

That night, I went to Club 313 and hung with the Sisters of Manchester. Again, I had a great time and met some new faces.

I got home around 1 AM, put stuff away, removed makeup, etc. An hour later I got the knock on the door. It was the police. My mom died that night while I was at the club. Shit. She was the happiest she's been in a long time.

So now I'm dealing with all of the stuff concerning the funeral. No one else in the family can or will do it. This sucks.

In the morning, I will get up, call in at work (hoping I don't get the boot for taking too much time off), and start scrounging up enough cash to give her a decent sendoff. She didn't have insurance, and I'm the one who has to make it happen.

Pawn Stars, here I come...

Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but I need to get some of this off my chest.

Thanks for listening,
Kat

[Lucy_Bella]

Sorry for your loss..

[NICOLETV]

sorry about the loss , i know what u r going through ,my girlfriend lost her grandfather yesterday morning also, god bless u and we all are here for u if u need a shoulder to lean on

[zoe m]

I'm sorry to hear that, my condolences...

[Annaliese2010]

The last 24 hours have sucked pretty hard... I got home around 1 AM, put stuff away, removed makeup, etc. An hour later I got the knock on the door. It was the police. My mom died that night while I was at the club. Shit. She was the happiest she's been in a long time.

Please accept my most sincere condolences Kat. I was changed 4ever when my mom died several yrs ago. She was my best friend & the only person I truly loved. You never quite get over it...but do learn to live with it.

[GaleWarning]

The key to dealing successfully with your grief is to ensure that the funeral highlights the joys of her life.
Photographs, favourite music, the things she achieved.
Remember and cherish forever the good times you spent with her. Do not allow any regrets or guilt to get a show in.

My condolences ...

[Lena Teegal]

oh sweetie I'm so sorry. We're here for you.

[Rianna Humble]

Kat, I'm sorry for your news - especially receiving it in that way. It is hard to lose your mum, and even harder when you have to cope with all the arrangements. It will take time for you to grieve, but when you do, please don't feel ashamed of your emotions - they are a natural coping mechanism.

Please don't feel sorry for posting this here, it is a support forum and there are many of us who are rooting for you at this moment.

[Lorileah]

you have my thoughts and sympathies. Sorry about your loss

[Raychel]

I am sorry for you loss.
My mother was my best friend it was a very sad day when she passed.

[Joanne f]

Sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts are with you at this sad time .

[Persephone]

One more whose thoughts are with you.

Hugs,
Persephone

[Angiemead12]

sorry for your loss too.

[Diane Smith]

My deepest sympathies.

My mom died, with only a day or so advance warning that anything was wrong, just over five years ago. She had been, in many ways, my most consistent supporter and strongest influence. My life changed profoundly after that -- but it did not end, and I have accomplished much that is good since then.

Celebrate the years you had together and make the funeral an opportunity for all the visitors to honor her life and feel good about knowing her.

We're thinking about you.

- Diane

[Loveday]

Matrioshka, you have my deepest sympathy at this very sad time. I lost my father very suddenly and unexpectedly a little over a year ago. Hang in there, it is going to be rough for a while. Just do the best you can.

[lorisdream]

My mom's passing is also very fresh as she passed just 2 months ago on Oct 10th. Just a phone call from my dad, trip to the hospital and an hour later the doctor told us she was gone. I think I'm still in that foggy area where we just go through the motions. I also had to make plans and pick the funeral home etc. That's the way she would of wanted it I think. SO sorry for your loss and I do feel your pain and emptiness. They tell me it gets better.

[Tahiri]

So sorry for your loss.

[erickka]

My condolences to you, hun. I've been in your shoes many times in the last decade.Hope all turns out well.

[Shelly Preston]

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your mother


May she rest in peace

[Jay Cee]

My condolences, Kat.

[matrioshka]

Thank you all for taking the time to reply.

God, this hurts.

Kat

[Charlena]

Love and good thoughts to you my friend. Strength to you in this difficult time. Charlena

[7sisters]

Praying for your mothers soul. Praying so you find the strength to go through this.

[VeronicaMoonlit]

Thank you all for taking the time to reply.

God, this hurts.

Kat

Yes it does. But I will be thinking of you today.

Veronica.

[Rianna Humble]

God, this hurts.

Yes it does, but over time the hurt takes on a different feel and you learn to live with it. My mum only died 14 years, 10 months and 1 week ago and I still sometmes cry, but at least I have memories of the good times to help me get through. Please do not forget that your memories of the good times with your mum will keep her alive in your heart for the rest of your life.