CDs, would u choose to become a TS?

[docrobbysherry]

If u r a CD that DOESN'T feel TS, like me, and u had the chance to change into a TS, would u?

Yes, I'm AWARE many of u HAVE become TS after starting out as CDs. And many more will! But, I doubt if many do so VOLUNTARILY!?

What if someone invented a pill that would PUSH u over that line? Would u take it?

For me, I'm not sure! Here's why:

I mite LOSE the experience of that erotic shot of adrenaline seeing Sherry in the mirror. Something I really enjoy. However, I think dressing EVERY DAY would change that!

I mite GAIN the EXPERIENCE of what it's like to have the feelings and emotions of a female. Something I have always wondered about, but have never felt!

So, would I take the pill? Would u? Why, or why not?

[tinysquid]

I think I would....the practicalities of life prevent me from taking that step now, but instantly? OMG that would be beautiful... =]

[ReineD]

Sherry, I'd be interested to know just how many CDs would decide they want to transition because of the erotic high as you call it, thinking it is their true calling to womanhood.

Then I'd love to know how many CDs like this would regret the decision.

Those are entirely the wrong reasons to transition.

Also, I may be wrong, but IMO a person would already have to have the feelings and emotions of a female before transition, since this would BE the reason to transition.

[Christy_M]

I think that the build up of confidence and the ability to shape how far to go through personal experiences would be important. As a rather large man with a family and career, transitioning would be at a heavy price and without a different inner perspective of how the gains would outweigh the losses, I would have to pass on the pill.

Now if there was a pill that would immediately turn me into Halle Berry then sign me up.

[Danni Bear]

Sherry, I'd be interested to know just how many CDs would decide they want to transition because of the erotic high as you call it, thinking it is their true calling to womanhood.

Then I'd love to know how many CDs like this would regret the decision.

Those are entirely the wrong reasons to transition.

Also, I may be wrong, but IMO a person would already have to have the feelings and emotions of a female before transition, since this would BE the reason to transition.

Reine,

As I am a transitioned TS.
You couldn't be more correct in your analisys of why we transition. We are female before, during and after transition. We hide this part of our nature for many years but finally it overtakes us and then we have to be true to that which is real not that which is a lie. Many of us believe that if we can run fast enough or far enough that it will magically disappear from our lives. Genetically, no we are not women. In temperment,emotions,the way in which we think,act and by any other measure we are and will always be women. We really have no other choice in life. This is not only those who have gone through the full scope of transition but also those who because of other concerns stop short of full transition. Would we choose this if we had a choice, for the most part, probably not if we knew beforehand what the true costs were going to be.

Danni

[Vickie_CDTV]

As a TS friend once quipped, "I wouldn't wish this (transsexualism) on my worst enemy."

Of course, everyone's experiences will vary, but the life of a TS can be agony. Even folks who have everything else going for them can end up miserable. TSs are driven to do it, they have to do it, it isn't a choice for them. It is not something one would ever want to sign up for.

If you dress up and get an erotic kick, that is fantastic, and despite what some say, this erotic kick does not have to/will go away with time. Dress up and have fun with it. Dress up and enjoy it for all it is worth.

[Rianna Humble]

IMO a person would already have to have the feelings and emotions of a female before transition, since this would BE the reason to transition.

Reine,

As I am a transitioned TS.
You couldn't be more correct in your analisys of why we transition. We are female before, during and after transition. We hide this part of our nature for many years but finally it overtakes us and then we have to be true to that which is real not that which is a lie. Many of us believe that if we can run fast enough or far enough that it will magically disappear from our lives. Genetically, no we are not women. In temperment,emotions,the way in which we think,act and by any other measure we are and will always be women. We really have no other choice in life. This is not only those who have gone through the full scope of transition but also those who because of other concerns stop short of full transition. Would we choose this if we had a choice, for the most part, probably not if we knew beforehand what the true costs were going to be.

Danni

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Danni has expressed it better than I could. As someone who is just at the start of her transition, I would only like to add to the last sentence:

I would not have chosen the years of torment trying to hide from who I really am and believing that accepting myself was something negative and wrong. By comparison, any costs involved in my transition seem a small price to pay for gaining a sense of well-being and wholeness.

[Dana]

Sherry, I'd be interested to know just how many CDs would decide they want to transition because of the erotic high as you call it, thinking it is their true calling to womanhood.

Then I'd love to know how many CDs like this would regret the decision.

Those are entirely the wrong reasons to transition.

Also, I may be wrong, but IMO a person would already have to have the feelings and emotions of a female before transition, since this would BE the reason to transition.

Why is it predisposed that men are not capble of "feminine" fellings, wants, needs, desires?

That we don't like babies, little tikes, puppies, and kittens?

That we're not capable of "Ahhhhhhh" moments?

That we're not capable of embracing and enjoying fememity?

And so if we are?

OMG!

Cats are breeding with Dogs!

Its the freaking end of the world ~ as we know it!

Crossdressing isn't a diease!



That we're not capable of "

[suzy1]

I think Dana makes some very good points. [I see my brothers little 18 month old son and go “ahhhhhhhh” And as for kittens!
As for the question, I would prefer a switch rather than a pill. Then I could switch back again when I wonted to. Im missing the point maybe.

SUZY

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

I guess at my age and with my past history I would transition tomorrow. Why I do not consider it is: fear and uncertainty. Fear because I am fearful of pain and infection uncertainty because I do not know what my mind set would be tomorrow. Then I may suffer regret because then I would always be questioning and for me I need an answer. Maybe if I did not have parents I would have transitioned years ago. In summary, if I had a pill to swallow that would make things so called easier, then maybe my decision making would become more complex.

[juligirl1984]

As a TS friend once quipped, "I wouldn't wish this (transsexualism) on my worst enemy."

Of course, everyone's experiences will vary, but the life of a TS can be agony. Even folks who have everything else going for them can end up miserable. TSs are driven to do it, they have to do it, it isn't a choice for them. It is not something one would ever want to sign up for.

If you dress up and get an erotic kick, that is fantastic, and despite what some say, this erotic kick does not have to/will go away with time. Dress up and have fun with it. Dress up and enjoy it for all it is worth.

thanks for sharing that... I relate to how "everything is going GREAT for me but still ends up..... well... still finding it out.

[BRANDYJ]

No I would not take that pill. I know who I am and happen to like who I am. I am a man that happens to enjoy crossing the line to be feminine at times; Like what I admire, cherish, want, need and even lust for. That is a woman. There is a big difference in emulating a women and hopefully feeling as beautiful as she is or might feel, and becoming one through full transition. I might even then miss being a CD.

[Maria in heels]

To take a pill and transistion overnight...hmm this is such a deep question and cannot be answered in a quick fleeting moment..

I would have to say that 25 years ago, I would have taken the pill without even thinking twice about it .... I always wanted to be a "real" female, not sexually, but as a person, but over the years, I have learned that I embrace Maria as I always have, and she is part of my persona and helps to shape me in the decisions that I made and will make in the future. I have always tended to "lean" towards the more enfemme feelings as well as the softness and love towards others, unlike my "male" friends who were very rash and rough, even with girls. IT was as if they needed to put on a show for everyone, to be "cool" and not let their guards down --- it was hard not to have tears in your eyes when a group of us, along with girls, went to a "girly" movie...

Now, if you offered me the pill today, I would have to say no, not because I do not want Maria to be out, but because I have a certain professional relationship that would not transistion easily, as well as my family unit and children. Would family understand..I think so, but there are so many more issues at hand over the last 14 years that I would not feel comfortable being so "selfish" as I am a caretaker --- yes, that part is very strong from Maria, and affects my choices everday...

Bottom line...if I could take the pill "temporarily" I would not even hesitate, but for long term today.... Sherry - do you think that you could go back downstairs to your lab and adjust the formula so that the pill would last something like 2 weeks for me please??????????????

[nicole12]

i would love to think, feel and be a woman is inside with all there different types of emotions etc . When im dressed i do feel fem but at this stage i don't think im totally feeling like a lady on the inside etc only because i don't know how to be that way but wish i could be.

[Danni Bear]

Doc,

I'm kinda afraid that some don't understand your question in your OP. It's not a pill that would transition you as I understand it but a pill that would change your perception of yourself from being A CD'er to being TS and all that entails. That is to say it would change you from male perspective and major activities to a female perspective and actions. Not emulating a woman but becoming one while still maintaing a more male life.

Danni

[ReineD]

Why is it predisposed that men are not capble of "feminine" fellings, wants, needs, desires?

Lol. That's not what we're saying at all. Of course men are human and they have all the same feelings that women do (who are also human).

It's a question of gender identity. A M2F TS knows that she is a woman before transition. HRT and SRS won't make her feel more "womanly", since she's already there. It's an internal thing. She will love puppies and babies before, during and after transition too. As will her brother, and her baby sister.

Emotions are independent of gender identity.

I have always tended to "lean" towards the more enfemme feelings as well as the softness and love towards others, unlike my "male" friends who were very rash and rough, even with girls. IT was as if they needed to put on a show for everyone, to be "cool" and not let their guards down --- it was hard not to have tears in your eyes when a group of us, along with girls, went to a "girly" movie...

You know ... there's a discussion going on about this in a different thread. And I agree with you entirely!

The machismo is all a show. Underneath, these guys have all the same feelings as the rest of us. But only the most confident will own up to them and admit it out loud. Boys cry too.

[Jonianne]

......Also, I may be wrong, but IMO a person would already have to have the feelings and emotions of a female before transition, since this would BE the reason to transition.

I think what you mean, Reine, is that a person should know that she is a female in her mind and spirit. Often I do wish I were female and often fantazie about being TS, but I know I have too much of a male mind and I have no doubt it would be a mistake for me. Even though there are times when I know I have a genuine yearning to be a female, I also know my male side knows the erotic aspect of it. It is really something you have to sort out in your heart. Someone searching would have to find out what is the primary driving engine, is it an erotic drive or a genuine desire to express your femine side or BOTH (a lot of ships have more than one engine). In my case I've had to sort out what degree does each engine drive the desire.

So Doc, no, I wouldn't take a pill to push me over the line. If I had a say in my mothers womb, I think I would choose to be born female, but I am OK to let the universe make that decision.

[JohnH]

I not only say no, but HELL no.

I definitely identify myself as male. I simply like to wear more different types of clothing that what is accepted for standard male attire. Having said that, I would like bigger breasts. Mine are only B cup, but some of my male relatives have C and D cup breasts. But I say leave everything else alone for me and I would like to remain a male.



John

[MJ]

Yes, I'm AWARE many of u HAVE become TS after starting out as CDs. And many more will! But, I doubt if many do so VOLUNTARILY!?

Sorry sherry i don't understand your statement clarify please
you know i did

[docrobbysherry]

Doc,

I'm kinda afraid that some don't understand your question in your OP. It's not a pill that would transition you as I understand it but a pill that would change your perception of yourself from being A CD'er to being TS and all that entails. That is to say it would change you from male perspective and major activities to a female perspective and actions. Not emulating a woman but becoming one while still maintaing a more male life.

Danni

Thank u, Danni! U GOT IT! Sorry Reine, MJ and others! I worded my post VERY poorly! I've edited it so it may make more SENSE!
The pill changes your FEELINGS from those of a CD, to a those of a TS. Of course, MANY of u have those feelings NOW! This thread was directed toward CDs, like me, who DON'T!
AND it has NOTHING to do with transitioning!

[sissystephanie]

I would have to agree with JohnH. I was born a male, and have no desire whatsoever to become a female or live like one. Yes, I do love to feminine clothing, but the rest of being feminine is not for me. And unlike JohnH, I do NOT want bigger breasts! I have natural 40 B's and they are fine for my body!!

[insearchofme]

I love my femme self but I love my male self. So no I would not want to change.

[Sheren Kelly]

I find this a very interesting thread.

To answer Sherry's question, no I would not wish to force a transition, but.....

I occasionally feel very femme, yet know that it is primarily a way to release the stress I feel for having to maintain the traditionally male personna. There is a part of me that wants more feminine secondary characteristics, but I don't forsee SRS. An androgenyous look would probably suit me, enabling me to more easily express my femme side while not abandoning my ability to be masculine. I have had electrolysis and often think about HRT, but I think that would be the limit.

I have resolved that "I am not a woman, thought I would have liked to have been one" and I resolve this dilemma by gradually taking on an inner femininity as well as an occasional external femme expression. Since I was raised as a male, I am not sure I have the life skills and emotional foundation to effectively live as a woman.

[divamissz]

As always, you bring up the most interesting questions Sherry...

I was once described by someone as a CD with TS leanings, so I suppose I would be quite happy to take that pill. But would I really need to? I've felt far more feminine than masculine in many ways for most of my life; would that change? Do I hate the bits (no pun intended) that are masculine? Not all of them. One time I'd have gladly leaped headfirst into transition; now I don't know.

And would I have the kind of strength I've seen in my friends who have transitioned, who have gone through so much? I saw someone last week whom I haven't seen since before she had SRS and she looked not just happier, but more content. If I could have that, it'd make it worthwhile.

Do I need a pill to push me in that direction?

[Loni]

i am a cross dresser, a tend to believe a transsexual is born in the wrong body. just as i am hard wired to dress-up they are hard wired to be the other gender.

yes at times i do think it would be grand to have the body of a girl...but my size/shape kinda kills that. for a male i am just average, but for a woman i would be a bit larger than the norm.
and after a resent cancer surgery. things just are not working as they should. so i have thought...just maybe...tend to a bit of cosmetic surgery. as not enough to tuck. and too much to not budge. but to change completely...maybe not.

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