When youre not enfemme, are you an alpha male?
I am...........and, when enfemme I am not, what is it? Is it that when enfemme, I can let go of all of that "macho" demeanor? That as a male, I MUST be in control? I MUST be the strong one? Is it that I can let all of that go, and be the one who smiles at people? Is it that "personna" that we choose to escape from?
OMG..............my mind is working overtime here..........someone, please help me!
I am a very confident male in my normal life but I would not describe myself as the average male as I like things that most men don't such as shopping and openly admit it. I get on very well with women and enjoy their company and they seem very comfortable with me and tell me things they wouldn't tell other men. I think this is down to only being raised by my mother so no male influence and the fact I talk about my wife all the time which makes GG's feel safe. They know I'm not trying to hit on them.
When I am dressed, which is only at home I retain a similar character in front of my wife who is the only one who knows.
I don't change with my clothing!! I'm confident in my abilities... Forthright... Thrifty.... Brave.. Clean.. Irreverent. (What's the girl scout ones any way??)
Yes I'm a very strong Alpha.
I am a confident male also, but not a macho male, I do not watch football, baseball, or basketball. I go to the gym 4-5 days a week but most all my workout is cardio. I am not feminine but the avg person would tell that I was more sensitive than the nornal male. I have a lot of girl and guy friends but more girl friends.
In my view, being male carries its own stresses and feeling or acting feminine for many simply releases that stress. No matter what stress my male side has, when I feel more fem and in my clothing, I am way more relaxed. It’s the main reason my SO likes my dressing; it makes for a calmer evening for her. Obviously we are all different in our level of feeling feminine, for example, I have no need or desire to change my voice or act any different, I am just a more laid back me, a man in female things feeling pretty.
My male side is very natural and confident, not macho or arrogant, but very masculine without being rude or obnoxious. However, I come across tough and intimidating when annoyed I am also the kind of guy that flirts and when single, can get many dates with women. I do not see that part as bad or something I need to escape from.
I think, for me, its escaping from always having to be strong, the protector, financially responsible and so on… However, you can bet, when I am in fem mode, in a split second if I need to be the man I am, I can do that even if the pantyhose are still on my legs.
Put it simply… for me, dressing is like going on vacation, it’s just a break from reality.
I am sure many different reasons will be mentioned as well…. I hope this helps.
Last edited by Maria_1969; 12-16-2010 at 06:11 PM.
"If pantyhose can make my legs look this good, imagine what they can do for yours" - Joe Namath
OK, that´s twice...I am not reading anymore of your posts in this meeting.Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
To the OP - I am alpha male in drab and I, too, want to escape this persona en femme. I feel as though that personality is a sham and only around for self preservation in order to exist in a man´s world. Feminine males don´t typically ascend other people´s business ranks although there may be some very successful feminine males, I don´t personally know any. I think this is one reason I have to act as a domineering male.
Alpha female male actually, which is why I more or less retired.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
Never been Alpha male or Macho ...I am basically the same person with diferent gender clothes
To save the typing - reread Maria_1969. It pretty much summarizes my position.
I am the same no matter how I am dressed and I love it. I do think that dressing has liberated me more than when I was in an all male role.
I really think that I'm the same either dressed or as a male. I'm probably taken a bit more as a smart aleck when en fem, but the same person.
Charlie
Definitely not. I'm the nice guy, probably coming across as a little effeminate. I don't feel I have to prove anything as a man or assert my masculinity. I like guy stuff like football and beer (real ale), but I love cooking and do aerobics in the gym, not weights (often the only guy in the class). I often sit with the girls in the coffee room at work.
(edited to correct a typo :S )
I am not ever that real Macho Alpha male. I am pretty level headed, If I need to be that macho in your face guy, I can be. Although I don't really like to be that guy. Most of the time I am just me. And when I am dressed up.
Well then nothing really changes, except my clothes, Still just me.
my sister's reply when I told her how I prefer to dress
"Everyone has there thing, all that matters is that you are happy, love what you do and who you do it with"
Neither Alpha or Macho, but not feminine either. I am just a man who likes to wear feminine clothing. That does not change who or what I am! I can still kick you name it if the need arises, but I can also be sweet and gentle!! I am ME!!
Stephanie
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
It's F'd up... really.... When I'm not en femme.. I feel so agitated.. so tense and not right and I just CAN'T WAIT to go back to en femme, being my self.. DRIVES ME CRAZY... Only time I'm happy is when en femme... I changed... I didn't used to be like this.. Now it's all I think about. I'm not content in guy mode, nor happy.. really miserable.
As men we are taught to be this figure and things are installed on how we should be. Sometimes its hard to just let go and be you. It was a real change to just think for myself. When Im not enfemme Im Kayla
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
A strange thought crossed my mind.
When dressed I'm a Tomboy and thats perfectly OK. Kinda a double std.
I was much more of an Alpha Male when I was younger.
I think time has mellowed me a bit or at least given me a much longer fuse.
When I was younger I think I engaged in allot of Alpha male activities to see how stacked up against other men or maybe to compensate.
Somewhere along the way I learned that just because I dress Im not less of a man, go figure.
I wish someone would have explained that to me before I got these scars on my knees , I could wear shorter skirts If I'd have known.
Confident, outgoing, never met a person I did not call friend. EN femme or not. I once told someone who only knew Sheila that they ought to meet my other half. He was the outgoing one. She simply said "Honey you can't be more outgoing than you already are." That was when I realised that I was essentially the same person.
In my daily walk in life I must maintain my male persona and am the alpha male. No question about it. For some reason, when enfemme, I am more relaxed and willing to let my hair down so to speak. It's not that I'm unhappy as a man, just more happy as a woman. I don't know, just feels comfortable.
-Daun (Enchanting)
When Male I wouldnt say I am Macho.I play and watch Soccer,enjoy a pint,but I dont stroll about the place,thinking I'm the man,e.g. I m not into Male obsessive stuff like Motors and I'm useless at D.I.Y. Cant even change a plug LOL. I spend more time in the company of the girls,and we always talking girlie stuff and We talk about things that guys and girls wouldnt ordinarily discuss.A cpl of my GG friends have bared their souls to me.And I have to them also.
I would say in everyday life my feminine feelings are the ones I'm more comfortable withSophie
We look to Scotland,for all our Ideas of Civilisation-Voltaire
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A woman who loves to wear beautiful clothes is like a flower.
A man who loves to emulate these women is a special flower-a roseFacebook:Sophie Johnson
I don't think that the clothes change me really. I do "feel" feminine in my Mackenzie mode, no doubt, but I am not a pusher, not trying to be a tough guy or anything like that. I am fun-loving, laugh a lot, have a zeal for life, love deep relationships with family and others, care for the needs of others and seek to do something about it, tender, etc. Machenzie is just a display of the feminine person inside that loves to come out.
I try not to over-analyze, because I can't really explain my enjoyment of dressing enfemme. It seems to be a very strong part of who I am. I have stopped/started so many times over the years and I think I have come to grips with the fact that I am Mackenzie and I am XXXXXX, in a sense.
Mackenzie
Hi.
Wow how interesting .
I could not act the part of a male tho it is a part of me nor can i act a part of a woman & that to is a part of me really its about being in the middle & for this kid thinking as both. really just no difference , i never saw my self as one or the other . just a happy blend of both all mixed to gether. just i prefer womans clothes.
one word . ....HAPPY....just being me,
...noeleena...
I'd say that I am fairly confident in male mode. Not so much an alpha male - more of a lone wolf. I can get along with guys at work, but have very few common interests with them, so I tend to be a loner.
I wouldn't sweat it, Kathryn. Part of being "Kathryn" is probably the escape from the pressures of being a top dog. Some choose alcohol or drugs for the release of tension. And some folks crossdress. No biggie.
Non-Alpha male ... I don't hunt or fish or other macho stuff. But I love riding and working on motorcycles, my second hobby. I was raised around females and most of my adult friends are female. I am closer to my wife girlfriends that there husbands. It just seems I am more comfortable around woman then men. To me I don't have to prove anything around the ladies, just wish I could be honest and fit in with them. I admire them all !!!
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