Being referred to as "ma'am", or "lady"....as in a waiter saying "would you ladies like to try or today's special of...?", without any odd facial expression is compliment enough for me. Going public, inlcuding crowded shopping malls, or supermarkets without people turning heads, or double-takes has built a lot of confidence for me. It's now become fun. `
I've had people compliment me on my attire, but I think that's something different entirely. I just want to go on record as saying I have not had any bad reactions in public yet.