So when you crossdress it gives you emotional or sexual satisfaction but after its over do you feel guilty or depressed?
So when you crossdress it gives you emotional or sexual satisfaction but after its over do you feel guilty or depressed?
No. I just feel like I can't wait to do it again.
In the last few months before I went full time, I felt severely depressed and physically nauseous every time I had to go back to dressing as a man.
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I never feel guilty and only feel a bit saddened that the wonderful moments that I was experiencing while dressed and out have to come to an end until next time.
I guess it depends on WHY you CD, but I think a lot of younger CD's can indentify with this. After you dress, and if you experience, umm...sexual satisfaction, many of us can't get the clothes off fast enough. Then follows the shame, guilt, depression, etc.
I think after a certain age, you start to grow out of this, and just enjoy being able to embrace your femininity, at least that's how it was for me.
Same here. I wish I could stay like this..... sadly I can't.Originally Posted by Sophie86
Not any more, but there was a time when I would go through that cycle again and again. Then I came to understand that there is nothing wrong with crossdressing, nothing wrong with me because I crossdfress. I came out to my wife and have recieved her grace and forgiveness for decieveing her.
Now, I don't really have "crossdressing sessions". I am at least partially dressed all of the time, I can't remember when I wore men's underwear, and Christmas Eve, when I put on a suit to wear to church, was the first time that I've worn guy trousers in years. Instead, I tend to move between a more masculine presentation and a more femine presentation, occaisionaly presenting entirely as feminine, but rarely entirely masculine.
Once you come to the realization that it's OK to be transgendered, there's little reason for guilt or shame.
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No! Why would I???? Thats weird!
No,never, not anymore, when I was young I thought sex and cross dressing where connected, and it was all about self pleasure, then I had guilt that could last for days. But once I realized I wanted to dress whither I masturbated or not, I found myself dressing for longer periods and enjoying it more, besides other guys are using playboy or porn or what ever for the same reason, so whats to feel so guilty about. Not everyone has a partner, and have sex when ever they want, the rest make do, no big deal.We number in the hundreds of thousands, if not millions world wide, so we are not that strange, so forget the guilt trip, don't wait till your old to figure it out. Out or in the closet, there is no reason for shame of guilt, if the clothes are yours, you have done nothing wrong.
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No, not anymore. Like other people have indicated I did feel guilty and ashamed. Now I feel nauseous when I have to dress as something I know I am not.
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My depression happens because it is over and I have to go back in drab and being a man.
Charlie
JenniferB hit the nail on the head. I bet many of us felt that way when in our early years crossdressed and self pleasured ourselves. Especially those of us that thought we were the only boy in the world that would put on girly clothes. I remember the guilt, the shame, and even worried that there must be something wrong with me. I was around 11 at the time. That all went away once I hit my early twenties and discovered that I was far from all alone in my desires.
I don't feel guilty, as I enjoy wearing womens shoes. Like some have said before I can't wait to do it again. Can't get emough of high heels!
blake
I don't get anything out of dressing anymore,I mean absolutely nothing,it just seems to be normal for me to wear womens clothes,yet I no longer make any attempt to make myself passable in any way,the only makeup I wear is mascara.
My preference of dress is womens low rise jeans,bootcut and skinny jeans.
I do wear heels,and flats,and have several pairs of wedge sole ankle boots I wear,but I never go in public wearing a dress or skirt.
One thing I never do is feel guilt for anything I do,or have done,well I do feel some guilt over one small thing,when I was in Viet Nam,I might have missed a few and they may have gotten away.
But guilt over dressing sessions,never.
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Kate
If I felt guilty or depressed after crossdressing, I would stop doing it! Then I would go to a doctor to find out what was wrong with me! Except for wearing a wig or doing makeup, I dress enfemme almost every day. Some days it is for all day, other times just for part of the day.
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Jennier has this exactly right. As I have grown older I have embraced my femininity and crossdressing. It's who I am. I don't feel guilty, I have no regrets and I don't feel depressed. I just look forward to, and start planning my next crossdressing day.
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Sometimes I feel a little depressed when I have to go back to drab mode. I know it was a long time ago, but I don't ever remember being depressed because of my desire to dress when I was young, either.
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This is just the way it was for me too.
Now I am much more relaxed and the guilt is gone.
It is just a fun little hobby that does not hurt anyone
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Yes, I went through that when I was younger. To be clear, though, it wasn't the "sexual satisfaction" that made me feel guilty, it was the dressing itself and the feeling that I had no control over the dressing. Back then it was like a compulsion. I would tell myself I wasn't going to do it, but then I would do it anyway. Part of me thought it was wrong, and part of me thought it was delish. The latter always seemed to win. The part that thought it was wrong never really had any convincing arguments, and let's face it, it takes a very strong argument to trump "omg, that feels amazing!" When I finally realized that there wasn't a good reason not to dress, and just accepted whatever it implied about who I am, the compulsive nature of my crossdressing evaporated, and so did the guilt. Meanwhile, the sexual satisfaction while dressed still happens on lucky occasions, and it doesn't cause me a bit of angst.
the only time i felt guilty was when i was young and living at home, embedded in an environment full of conformity and conservatism. it was not that what i thought i was doing was wrong in itself, but i just felt that it would betray my family.
i also felt guilty because when i was young i definitely 'borrowed' some clothes from girls i went to school with, in secret... which i ought to feel guilty for
but in later years, and now, definitely never feel depressed or guilty. I feel mostly completely elated, flowing, and radiant when dressed, and in general, i feel totally excited about the future, and to see where it will take me as i listen to my inner voice.
Folks, it is clothing.
Why feel bad about wearing clothes?
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Jennifer really said that well; Your not alone on this one and time does "heal" it.
Allot of my guilt was from raiding closets and just knowing this wasnt accepted. For me having my own clothes and a safe place to dress made a huge difference.
I think part of it was also not knowing what the future held or how alone I was; I just knew I was different meeting others helped allot here.
This forum is the right place for your question.
I did hide my playboys as well. Come to think of it I wasted allot of time as a teenager :-)
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I do not feel either guilty or depressed. I just look forward to the next time I can dress and possibly expand on my wardrobe or further experiment with makeup. I just enjoy myself as much as I can.
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