... didn't go too well
A bit of background. Twenty years ago (after ten years of marriage) I confessed to my wife about my cross-dressing. She's a sweet wonderful woman but she didn't approve. She was extremely concerned that I wasn't going 'funny' as she put it. Things were thrown away and the topic was never raised again.
Until four weeks ago.
Tormented by guilt, my blood pressure had gone through the roof to the extent it was making me ill. I confessed all - again. She re-assured me that she wouldn't leave me and was concerned for me - in fact she suspected something was troubling me.
But, other than the "Are you gay? Do you want to be a woman? Does anyone else know? You haven't been out of the house have you?" she didn't mention it again. (No to all questions BTW)
I didn't press the matter prefering to let her come to terms with this at her own pace. Finally, I thought I had to ask if there was anything else she wanted to ask me. She did. "When did it start?" "Is it getting worse?" It transpires that after our previous 'talk' she assumed I would stop.
I had told my wife how I had previously visited a place in Manchester and mentioned that I would like to visit a different place next month. She asked what went on and when I explained it was a professional make-up and dressing service the atmosphere went quite frosty. She had assumed that my previous visits were for counselling and to help me give-up. Ouch!
So no, she is not happy about me going. She even added "Although you'll probably go anyway!"
Clearly I blundered. I assumed that simply by mentioning my intentions she would give a grudging acceptance. Looks like I shan't be going, otherwise she'll feel that there was little point in running it by her if I was going to go anyway.
My question is "Has anyone here experienced a similar reaction from a loved one?" By which I mean almost a state of denial - if we don't talk about it it will go away?
Has anyone ever gone to counselling looking to be 'cured'. And no, I don't believe there is a cure. In truth I don't want to be cured but equally I don't want to cause anymore upset to my wife.
Basically, I think the follow-up talk was a mistake and that my wife preferred blissful ignorance of what I get up to
Zoe