Twenty years ago I told my wife that I was a CDer. Little info in those days and we never spoke about it again.
She assumed I then stopped whilst I assumed she now knew but took her lack of further follow up as a sign that she didn't want to know anything about it.
Two months ago I told her again. I was having some health issues and I realised that it would be the cruelest hurt of all if she only found out after something happened to me. She didn't suspect a thing. She was stunned.
I had found this site by chance and the "How to tell" thread was invaluable to me.
Recently she agreed to let me go for a photoshoot (Link to pics in sig) despite being fairly repulsed by the notion
So the the encouraging signs... yesterday I explained that I had two favours to ask. I discussed with her the fact that they (Transpose) have a monthly support group - more a get together really. I explained that I would like to attend (It's 70 miles away so that helps) and she didn't object. I also floated the option of her coming along to verify that it's not 'sleazy' which seems to be a recurring concern of hers.
So far so good so I went for request #2. I explained that in some of my pictures I was wearing a really nice red pencil skirt (I felt darned sexy but I thought best not mention that) and had looked to buy one without success. I did however come across a gorgeous cocktail dress and said that I would like to order it and it would be delivered to our address. She didn't try to disuade me.
This may seem like small beer to those of you with supportive SO's but it's a major step forward for us. She may not want to see the dress but at least we may talk about where I am going to keep it and does the rest of my stash need to remain hidden. (I should add that she knows that I have other clothes but hasn't asked to see them).
And to the GG's, I have stressed to her that I'm sorry for banging on on this topic again and that it is only a small part of me. And Yes. I do tell her daily that she is loved and appreciated.
Zoe