Why does it need to be competition. Why can't it be balance, or strive to be alike. What is all this one upmanship.
I hope that I can meet a girl that would love to be the "pretty and frilly" one, while I am the more severe, exotic if you will. I think the juxtaposition would play really well, and be alot of fun.
But honestly, I would love to inspire my GF or future wife to "dress to the nines" Who cares if you aren't going out. Just have fun. That to me is the most important thing.