How important is it to you to feel comfortable with your Therapist? How important is it for the therapist to seem comfortable with you?
Some of you may know my story as I have recently come to terms with the facts that for me anyway…my dressing is more than just a hobby and is in fact something that I am working my way towards going on Hormone Therapy and living enfemme 24/7/365.
I started therapy back around the first week of February and my next appointment scheduled for Thursday will make my fifth session with this therapist. I presented as a male for my first two sessions and then with the help and assurances of several members of this forum I have attended my last two appointments dressed enfemme as Wendy.
I noticed the first time I attended session enfemme that my therapist seemed a little nervous and not nearly as talkative as he had been for the first two appointments which I attended dressed as a male. Again as some of you may remember I went through a bit of a crisis myself trying to decide on what to wear as I wanted to appear conservative with a well put together look…? I wore my best Jeans and a nice Black sweater as it rained very hard that day but, at the last minute I threw on a pair of 4” pumps and turned an otherwise casual conservative look into a very feminine outfit that seemed quite appropriate for the weather.
The second session I dressed for I wore a pair of denim Capri pants, my strappy sandals with freshly polished toes and a flirty looking Calvin Klein Tee shirt….I felt my attire was again casual and conservative but it seemed to me as though this took my Therapist off his A-game. And it seems that the more I attempted to talk openly about my need to dress and interact with others as a female to this man…the more he attempted to steer the conversation towards the male activities which I related to him in my first two sessions dressed male were interests of mine.
This therapist is new to this profession only recently having graduated school and being hired at this center, information which was related to me by the director of the center where I am a currently being seen at. I was told going in that if I had any issues or felt uncomfortable with being assigned someone so new in the field to my case to let her know and I would be assigned a different therapist. Now I don’t have a problem with giving anyone a chance…everyone has to start somewhere right? Plus, to me going to therapy isn’t necessarily about being in my comfort zone…I don’t want someone who is just going to agree with everything I say, I want real feedback.
That is why I asked in the beginning of this thread: How important is it to you to feel comfortable with your Therapist? How important is it for the therapist to seem comfortable with you?
Well, after giving this plenty of thought I have decided that the new guy deserves his three strikes before I make a final decision on asking for a new therapist or not…as far as I am concerned the last two visits has resulted in his garnering two strikes and I have decided that for my next appointment I am not going to make it easy on him.
If my being dressed enfemme is a problem for him then I am going to test out this theory by wearing the girliest most feminine clothing I have. I have this cute little black skirt that rides just above the knee, a pair of black pantyhose decorated with dots and a tight sage colored short sleeved sweater with a plunging neckline. Using the tape method I have fairly nice and believable cleavage in this sweater and I really love wearing it. In the interest of making an attempt to remain somewhat conservative in my appearance, plus since full on evening attire might look out of place before the lunch hour, I’m going to wear my black Mary Jane flats for comfort and throw on my cute little button up black sweater as it is supposed to be rather chilly on Thursday. I should have plenty of time that morning to apply my make up and style up my wig…and I intend to take full advantage of it.
This is going to be my acid test for the freshman therapist from this facility…if he acts weird or makes me feel uncomfortable then I think I am going to go to the director and take her up on her offer to have another therapist assigned to me…
Do you think that I am being unfair or unreasonable here? I would love to hear your comments.