Well, I'm not one to initate a flirt, but when a guy flirts with me, I go with it and love every minute of. However, as I find all men to be vile discusting creatures, it will never go past the flirting stage.
I just a validation out of it all. Like I've really "done it right" if you take my meaning.
Of course I grew up having very low self esteeem, so I think I get a high from reciving positive attention from just about anybody.
Originally Posted by seanmuscle
hmmm..kinda scary...kind of reminds me of my own little assumptions....not sure if i agree or disagree here..i know i WANT A SUPER MASCULINE MAN in the bedroom that will throw me around and all that wonderfulness--most of the time. Sometimes I want the softer side..I get BOTH....The question is..what does my husband REALLY want? I thought I knew...guess I'll have to wait for him to stumble upon this post and see if he's willing to answer
[SIZE="2"]I will ALWAYS love him.[/SIZE]
Um, you ARE aware that many heterosexual couples also engage in anal sex, right?
You're not comparing apples to apples. We all know plane crashes happen because we see it in real life. ******* porn is not real life, and should not be regarded as any indicator of what goes on the heart and soul of someone who identifies as transsexual. If a transwoman tells you she likes men and considers herself to be a heterosexual woman, it is downright ignorant to say "Well, I have studied ******* porn and my deep research into this subject indicates that is not valid."
Please.
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I've gone to find myself. If I should return before I get back keep me here to wait for me so I don't go back out and miss myself when I return.
And the "straight" admirer named Horndog wrote me and said "I'm straight, but I can really get excited and want to do it with someone that looks as good as you!" In most cases,I think they are "oralists" that are looking to play out a fantasy. Perhaps they have been studying the Brazilian transexuals so they know what all of us have in our panties..lol
There's a big difference in playing this attention/attraction thing in cyberspace and in real life. There are cd's who like to flirt for attention but would never meet an admirer, and there are admirers who play the game online but would never actually meet a cd.
I used to chat a lot, in crossdresser chat rooms, and have had some very good conversations with cd admirers. As Barbara said, many cd admirers consider themselves straight, even if attracted to feminine-looking cd's but not gg's. I can't explain this. Many, though, are attracted to either cd's or gg's, if their look pushes their arousal button.
And this bring up a reason why some admirers state no interest in male parts. There are cd's who are fetish dressers and like to make up and dress to accentuate those things that excite the cd. There are admirers who also have fetishes but prefer to admire their fetish object on others rather than on themselves. As an over-the-top dresser (for my own pleasure), it's nice to get attention from admirers who like the over-the-top look. Many have told me that they admire cd's because not many women (their words) don't dress and/or make up the way they like. For example, one of the things that characterizes my over-the-top look preference is a heavy application of deep red lipstick. Lipstick fetish is one of the most popular. Admirers have said they would like to kiss me. It's not about me or my cd status, it's about the lipstick fetish. Others have said they would like to touch and kiss my high heels. It's all about the fetish, not me. Some admirers like this use the internet to feed their fetish, and cd's often like the attention. Most, I would guess, would never make it a reality.
I'm sure there are admirers who are attracted to male parts. If much of the general public makes the false assumption that all crossdressers are gay, we might expect some admirers to think so as well. But not all admirers are looking for gay sex, just fetish excitement.
When I was younger I created a Myspace page and I would post some pretty provacative pictures and other things on there. I guess it came across as "flirty," but whenever I got any messages from admirers, which happened a lot, I would just delete them. Even the ones that just said "hey" because while I would kind of step into the feminine role while dressed, I never had any desire to actually do anything with another male, including other crossdressers, and never even responded to any of their messages just to chat either. As for in the bedroom, I love being the dominate one who can throw my wife around. I also enjoy when my wife takes over, but I think thats more because I know shes turned on from having control at that point, not because I want to be submissive. I can never stay in the submissive role for very long, and i definately wouldn't want to be submissive to another male, or be with one at all.
Excellent and fascinating question, Reine! I've only had a guy act like he was obviously interested once and it wasn't a good feeling. I was dressed in what I had hoped gave a professional, respectable, business look. I had on a navy blue knee length skirt suit, cream silk shell top, light tan pantyhose, and black 3 inch basic pumps. For jewelry, I had a wedding band and fake diamond ring, ladies watch, bracelet, thin gold chain necklace, and moderate (1 inch) dangly gold earrings. I had my hair pulled back in a loose ponytail. I had lots of foundation and concealer on, but my lipstick, blush, and eye colors were toned down. I was window shopping at a Dress Barn. About 15 people walked by without anyone giving me a secong glance, except one. Why is there always one? Anyway, he obviously realized what he was seeing, and looked me up and down. His smile was that creepy kind. He nodded and said in a loud voice "OKAY....." as though he was assuming I was a CD hooker and looking for business. I pretended he wasn't takling to me, ignored him, and walked toward the grocery store about a block away. It was about 4:30 PM and lots of people were out and about. I don't consider it a horrible experience, but it made me very uncomfortable. I'm straight, and don't like attracting the attention of guys, and I can't think of any circumstances where I'd flirt with any. Some women gave me passing glances and would smile just a little, as if in acceptance, approval, or even a little admiration. None laughed or acted as though they saw me as funny. The women's reactions have always been the ones that made me feel comfortable and more feminine. I don't think I "pass" under the scrutiny of guys, and it does make me very uncomfortable when I attract their attention. I've been believing that's part of the way GG's feel when they get unwanted attention from guys - nervous, uncomfortable, and hoping they're not followed when they leave the area. When I go out dressed, I like to appear respectable, and wear things professional women would wear. They are the ones I try to emulate. Sometimes I'm treated with respect, and that, combined with the dressing and appearing feminine and attractive, is what I think I'm after.But this is what I don't get: regardless of whether you (and others) are attracted to men or not (since this isn't the point of my question), I gather a big part of the thrill is, you feel the admirers are treating you like women. But from everything I've read from people who have active profiles on those sites, the admirers are after TGs for the very thing that TGs are masking when they dress, namely, their male bits. Which brings me to my question ... doesn't this present a conflict for you? Does knowing that an admirer sees you fundamentally as a guy and he's just doing what guys do when they want sex, make you feel any less feminine? Or is this something you just don't like to think about when you are dressed? I hope you don't mind my asking, but it does fit in with the thread topic.
It just seems to me there are two different agendas going on between CDs and admirers and I was wondering if knowing the reality of it all makes any difference to your feminine feelings that become enhanced when you think they are seeing you as women. Or, like I said, does it make any difference?
I admire the brave souls who will tackle my question.
Thanks for a great question,
Linda
Linda,
For me this is pretty much bang-on. I've had a few times in my life where I've felt EXTREMELY uncomfortable with what was going on around me, due to (mostly) men who I felt were being predacious. It's not very nice at all. I'm so glad that when it happened to you, you were in an area with a lot of people and places to go!
lol I love these discussions
find a pretty cd with a great looking body but if you don't like what's in the panties you're in an awkward position
like ive said before somewhere though is that I'm attracted to people
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