Hi, I'm a gg who doesn't say much but before you crucify me for what I'm about to say, please know that a more accepting GG you will not find.
I just finished reading all the posts in response to "Why do I want to be a woman?" and what struck me is that neither a CD, a TG or a TS can ever know what it is to be born with a female physical form, a female gender identity and to be socialized as female.
Some of you may have some physical features that are more female than male but there are physical features of being male that are in the wiring of the brain. Some of you have an identity that is more female than male but none of us will ever know what portion that identity might still be male because we can't really measure it. And few of you have been socialized as female. I can understand that you want your physical form to match your more female inate traits but when you judge that the female role in our society has less expectations placed on it or that it's ok for us to be softer, or that we're less competitive or aggressive, I'd ask you to think again.
I don't for one minute think that I understand what it's like to male, nor do I think I understand what it's like to be transgendered. But I think a mix up of hormones can cause someone with the male form to feel and act more feminine. Depending on the amount of hormone mix up, it can lead a genetic male to either be a fetish CD, a man who finds crossdressing as a way to relieve stress or a man who feels she's a woman trapped in the male form. However, I believe the male brain is different from the female brain in ways that go beyond hormones and the impact of the way a woman is socialized goes beyond the understanding of one who is socialized as male.
I mean no disrespect to those who have decided to transition because I truly believe that for many, it is the right thing to do so that the outside can match the inside more closely. But I think more closely is all you get and if it's worth all the trade offs you might need to make, or if you feel it's the only alternative to suicide, I'm all for it.
But for the vast majority who are here talking about clothes and make up, projecting their thoughts on feminity, the female psyche and the female experience and all the connections you all make to the physical act of sex, well I see it as more testosterone than any real connection to someone who is female on the inside and the outside.
I personally know someone who says she feels all woman on the inside and indeed when all dressed up, looks as female as I do. And to tell her that I see so many of her behaviours as male seems to be an insult to her. I don't mean it as an insult because men and women may behave differently but I don't think one is more wrong or right than the other. I just don't think that all the feminine inner feelings and all the feminine clothes put together account for everything it takes to be a woman. I think there's some female wiring in the brain that is just different from the male wiring and all the SRS can't change it.
We are extremely competitive, we are very aggressive, we have expectations placed on us that are just as impossible, we think very deeply, we pay attention to the nuances of relationships, we nurture, we fret...but the clothes and make up? To me, they are just as irrelevant to life as chasing a ball around a field. If you like clothes and make up, or enjoy playing sports, go for it. You have one life to live, live it in any way that makes you happy. But please, don't fool yourself into thinking that you are a woman 100% or that you understand the female experience 100%. Leave room for doubt when you describe what femininity is.
Ok, now go ahead and crucify me...
Speck