WsprsOnTheWind,
This statement, though not meant to harm, I am sorry, I found terribly offensive.
"I've been going out with this guy that smells so wonderfully masculine. I had forgotten how many of the little things that I love that I had sacrificed for the CD"
May I just ask....WHAT THE HELL IS A "REAL MAN" IS SUPPOSED TO SMELL LIKE?"
To my understanding we humans natural smell of BO, and other unpleasantness, unless we are cleaned up. Now I know there are women that love the sweaty smelling male, as there are men that also like that smell. In limited amounts I agree.
However, the fragrances we add to our bodies are not in any way natural. So the smell you are receiving from your "real man" is only a manufactured scent most likely made by a huge corporation.
I fail to understand why men are supposed to smell musky, and those males that choose a scent that is other than do not smell like a "real man". Aren't women attracted to pleasant even fruity smells? How about candy?
I myself wear no fragrances, but am thinking of acquiring a scent that is not too strong and of a grape scent...or I may get the cologne that the GG thought smelled really good....though it was marketed by a country western singer.
I do have to say though. We get caught up in these false definitions that are not historically accurate (my understanding is Greek men wore spices not too different from the women).
Now as far as the crossdressing is concerned. Intend to be open with my SO about mine, but mine is slowly diminishing to just being androgynous male, or fem. Not so much full on cding. It's fun for sure. But I would much rather have my own styles, and use items from both sides of the Gender aisle.
I have seen this too often about an SO being the sort that accepts, but not in her presence.
I think this kind of arrangement is absolutely lousy.
All it does it keep things hidden, it also does not allow the whole person to be known. And oh Great Maker, what might get known? That he has a "feminine side". Oh no, run for the hills!!! We can't have that now can we?
Seriously, my opinion is that the younger generation will hopefully kill these stupid and senseless notions.
We really need to stop treating what we do, whether full on cding or just trying to integrate "feminine" styles into our wardrobes, as if it is some kind of crime or disease.
*also, I am using the term "real man" not because of the OP, though what the quote says kinda implies the term. I used the term because it is something I do indeed hear, and frankly I am sick of it. There are no "real men" there are those that conform to a stereotype that is both inaccurate and limiting. IMOHO.*