I was thinking the other day about why some individual's SOs readily accept a CD partner while some are hesitant to accept and others just do not accept at all. I think some of it has to do with upbringing but I also wonder if there is another factor involved – specifically the threatening of the feminine confidence of the SO.
A personal example. When I told my SO she was totally accepting. I spent 4 hours crying and stressing and fumbling around telling her about me. When it was finally over she said to me, “Is that it? You are going to have to work harder than that to get rid of me”. Total acceptance from the moment I told her. My SO is a girly girl to the max. No matter what I do, I could never threaten her feminine sense of self.
So the question is do you think your SO/former SO confidence in her feminine self impacted her acceptance of you? Or said another way, do you think your SO felt threatened by your feminine desires because it made them question or doubt their own femininity?