I heard a new quote today that to me helps exemplify why some SO's accept their TG's spouse (BF, lover whatever you wish to say).
So many here make a big deal about how their SO dislikes them when they dress or even bring up dressing. To me, that isn't really love (and usually there is a lot more to the story). When you love someone. of course it starts physical, but it should and does grow into more. You see in the inner person. None of us, well except Rachel Welch..she is still hot, stays the same. We grow, we change. We all do. Being a TG isn't something you become, it is something you are. And by hiding it from your SO, you really are not showing the real you. Yes, I know, it is hard to step out. There are places I still won't go dressed even though most of them are just my own fear. But they say love is blind. The one person you should let se "you" is the person you love. And when you are honest, early on in your relationship, they can see the whole person."We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."
- Sam Keen