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Why don't I post or act very supportive of the CD/TG community or members of this site?
It's because of my experiences with the one I live with.
He's a liar. And he's still lying. He says one thing to me in our lives and then I see him posting something different on here. It feels icky, you know? I have stopped challenging him about this sort of stuff because then he goes off on a tangent about how I don't appreciate him.
He doesn't get that what I don't appreciate is the dishonesty!
He has betrayed my trust and hasn't done a thing to rebuild it. He lied to me about who he was before we got married (a transsexual woman) and he is still lying about it. He acts like I am a jerk for being intolerant of his activities. I would probably be more tolerant (and I was at first) if he were still acting like loving partner I married. He no longer does.
I feel taken for granted and robbed of the life, the sex life, and the partner that I had four years ago.
He is so incredibly self-centered and self-focused that for me, his dressing and transition activities feel like he is having an affair with another woman - and he is: with himself. Or 'herself', if you want to get technical about it.
I have been marginalized in our marriage and our lives, yet I keep hanging in there, trying to make it work because I know what it's like to be rejected and abandoned for simply being yourself. I keep hoping he will 'come out of it' and still be my partner and husband.
Please don't misunderstand me - I 'get' that he is a transsexual woman. But I don't get why he can't still be the loving and supportive person I married.
So, to make a long ugly story short, because of my experience with my husband, I tend to think all of you are self-centered narcicistic liars and betrayers.
Why in the world would I want to support that?