A Few Questions

[Sarah_Jane]

A few curious questions:

1) For those of you that have come out to your families, are any of your siblings ts/cd as well, or are you an only child?

2) I recently "came out" to my closest friend and she was very receptive. Now I have the desire to tell other friends as well, I have to keep myself in check saying that others that do not have such a vested interest in our friendship may not be so receptive. What are your experiences with friends, how many times have you been rejected or have noticed they start avoiding you?

3) At most I only have the opportunity to dress two days per week yet I have twice as many women clothes as men clothes. They are vastly more fun to shop for and coordinate, I really don't care so much about that stuff when I'm in drab. What is your clothing ratio and how often do you get to dress?

I have been wondering these things for a bit, thanks for any feedback!

[Karren H]

1). My brother dabbled in crossdressing after I introduced him to it when we were young..
2). Haven't come out to friends... Don't plan to..
3)... This year so far... Once.... Just to many more important things to do....

[Rianna Humble]

[QUOTE=Sarah_Jane;2504636]A few curious questions:

1) For those of you that have come out to your families, are any of your siblings ts/cd as well, or are you an only child?

The short answer is "No" and "No" - I have two older brothers who are both cis-gendered.

2) I recently "came out" to my closest friend and she was very receptive. Now I have the desire to tell other friends as well, I have to keep myself in check saying that others that do not have such a vested interest in our friendship may not be so receptive. What are your experiences with friends, how many times have you been rejected or have noticed they start avoiding you?

I only came out to my friends about the time that I began my transition. I havve been very lucky no-one has rejected me and even some acquaintances who I did not expect to understand have proved themselves to be strong friends on the quiet.

I am still invited to friends houses - in some cases more often than I was in my old life.

3) At most I only have the opportunity to dress two days per week yet I have twice as many women clothes as men clothes. They are vastly more fun to shop for and coordinate, I really don't care so much about that stuff when I'm in drab. What is your clothing ratio and how often do you get to dress?

Before I began to transition, I probably had about twice as much female clothing as male. Now, I no longer have any male clothing.

[Raynefall]

1. While I haven't come out to my family I only have sisters which I know don't CD.

2. I have felt an urge to tell friends but I don't have many of them so losing even one would suck.

3. As long as its Wed. - Sun. and I am not working I can usually dress up if I feel like it.

[Frédérique]

For those of you that have come out to your families, are any of your siblings ts/cd as well, or are you an only child?

[SIZE="2"]I have two older sisters, and I “came out” to one of them last year – the other one would be appalled to know I crossdress. There has been no history of crossdressing in my family, other than my own pioneering efforts...[/SIZE]

What are your experiences with friends, how many times have you been rejected or have noticed they start avoiding you?

[SIZE="2"]I told two friends, both female. One (a girlfriend) initially supported my desire to crossdress, but she became uncomfortable with it over time and eventually “outed” me in anger. My other friend was very supportive, but I never dressed in her presence, nor did I elaborate on my clandestine activity in any detail. In both cases I regretted “spilling the beans,” and I often advise people to keep their precious secrets to themselves, if only to preserve the “magic” of crossdressing...[/SIZE]

What is your clothing ratio and how often do you get to dress?

[SIZE="2"]I can dress every day. My clothing ratio is about three female items to every one drab “item.”

PS – Have you ever heard the song “Me and Sarah Jane” by Genesis?[/SIZE]

[Danni Renee]

I have not come out to anone in my family yet but I think I am likely the only one. I also have not come out to any friends yet either but I also do not have any close friends I would care to know about anyway. I underdress daily and dress almost exclusively in feminine clothes after I get home home from work. Maybe once every two weeks if I am going out do I dress in guy clothes. My female wardrobe does not rival my male clthes yet but that is only because I am still building it!

[Angie G]

First my wife is the only one who knows I dress And she is good with it. We even shop for Angie.My ratio is a bit over 50% woman clothing. And I get to dress 5 days a week. But I do under dress & day a week even if it is just panties.
Angie

[Vickie_CDTV]

1. I am an only child (my brother and sister were stillborn), no one on either side of the family are known to be trans or even gay (sans one cousin who is probably a lesbian)

2. Really think twice about telling everyone. You cannot un-tell, and you don't know who they will tell. It could also be used against you later.

3. I don't care much about male clothes, just wear t-shirts and such. I have a whole closet full of beautiful, elegant female clothing and one male suit I only wear to funerals etc.

[Angiemead12]

1. I have one brother and he is a homophobe and I think my dad is as well, My step mom and real mom are sorta supportive though.

2. so far the people I have spoken to plus the people my wife have told seem to be ok with it although only my close friends have seen me dresses.

3. I have a lot of clothes, more male than female at the moment.

[noeleena]

Hi .

I know this is more for you who dress .

at this stage we dont have any of our grown up's 33 ,35 ,36 , girl & two boys who will be different . & 8 grand kids under 14 i dought it. 4 boys & 4 girl's & one more coming due three weeks ,

Comeing to people & telling them dont expect to see me dressed in male clothes after a certain day tho i wonted them to be a part of my life as well in a different way.than how they'd seen me before.

At the time i dressed only in the evenings with my S O. about 3 years after that i was out & about going to do's 135 miles away. To meet other dressers, at that time tho i was never a dresser. as is whats meant here, ether a transsexual.

im just different so would not matter how i dressed not really . tho i hated male clothes. i had to take my time in buying clothes that would suit me long term like every day. so i thought ahead as to what i was doing, make up shoes & so on. till the time came that any male clothes would be given away. & that was done.


So Sarah,

if you dont allready know i did things a bit different so yea its good,

...noeleena...

[PretzelGirl]

1. None that I know of.

2. I have told a several friends (a couple of guys and many women). No rejections yet.

3. I can dress most every day. If I have something to do where dressing would be inappropriate or ill-advised, then guy mode takes priority. Otherwise, I am en-femme. I would say at this point, my female clothing has now passed the 50% of my warddrobe point.

[sweetjan]

I have never had any desire to tell my family members. My wife knows and has supported me from day one
and that is all that matters to me. My friends do not need to know as far as I am concerned. I know many people do not approve
of crossdressers, and I do not care about someone tring to lecture me about it. I am happy with what I do.

[Cynthia Anne]

I come from a family of elevin and I'm the only cd/tg one of the group! My family has never excepted me and as for as 'friends' those ones that say there o-k with it quit coming around! As far as my ratio goes I have eight male items! That includes a belt and a pair of shoes! Now on the fem side there's to many to count!

[Sarah_Jane]

Thanks everyone for the great responses, quite a wide variety of experiences!!