It is said that a parents love for there child is a never ending love! This I can beleive! Just before my farther passed, he came to me and said, 'I'm sorry that I was too stupid to show love in the right way'!
It is said that a parents love for there child is a never ending love! This I can beleive! Just before my farther passed, he came to me and said, 'I'm sorry that I was too stupid to show love in the right way'!
If you don't like the way I'm livin', you just leave this long haired country girl alone:
she may be studying the bible for her final judgement but she has been paying too much attention to the wrong bits. old jewish law is hardly relevant to today's world. has she read any verses about christian acceptance and forgiveness?
Like many others I find it sad that Sarah has been driven to cut herself off from her mother in this way, but I am glad that she had the self-srespect and moral fortitude to stand up for what is right.
I cannot join with those who say "you'll be sorry!", there are times when you have to make a stand and this was one of those times. Sarah has already said that she will not close the door to a reconciliation if her mother recognises that she was wrong to try to blackmail Sarah into behaving like a hypocrite.
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Right on-as adults we do what is best for us, we can't live our lives trying to please our parents. Sadly some parents would choose standing behind a book written thousands of years ago by misogynists ( & rewritten many times since to suit the whims of kings & church-leaders ) over treating their children with love.Originally Posted by sarahNZ
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Do stick to your guns. For what it's worth, I'd give a lot to be able to tell Mom about my being transgendered -- I just never got the guts, and ... it's been too late for almost a year, now.
I don't deceive myself that Mom might not have tried the same kind of thing, but she would have relented eventually, and we would have reconciled. I hold the same hopes for you, Sarah, and your mom. May she realize the error of her ways.
I support you also! You stood up for what you believe is right! You might remind your mother that she helped donate the genes that got you where you are! That is something that none of us can control! Most of us don't know why we do what we do, we just know we like to do it. It had to be "Bred" into us, SO... I think you should tell your Mom that you not only deserve your fair share, BUT you should get an extra portion because she created you in this manner and we all know this can be difficult to deal with!!! Just a thought anyway... :0)
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Before you make this kind of statement, you should understand that it was Christians who translated the Torah (what you refer to as the "Old Testament") into English in an era when it was common knowledge that Jews had horns. It reads considerably different in the original Hebrew. I think the 10 commandments are still pretty relevant, don't you?
To the OP:
As long as your mother believes she is doing this "for your own good" she will continue. Until she understands the harm she is doing and the pain she is causing, I'm afraid her attitude will remain the same. As I had similar (but different) issues with my own mother, I really understand when you're at. She died suddenly (at a relatively young age) before we could fully reconcile. This was many years ago and I've always regretted it. You only get one mother.
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Well I'm not sure of the nurture v nature aspect of transgenderism but I do know that from the age of 7 I was raised in a house with mum and my sister, (dad had already done a runner by then) so it is fair to say that I was raised firmly among females, heck I knew every thing there was to know about shaving legs well before I knew a thing about shaving my face (that privelege was reserved for one of my barack mates on basic training, RNZIR infantry, try explaining that one away???!) but I could tell you any amount of useless information on how to minimise the affects of period pain!??? or the aplication of makeup!?! So I could realisticly say that... Yes my mother was more or less responsible for the way I turned out... I was raised this way!
As for insisting that "I not only deserve my fair share but also extra for the way you fu...d up my life" you obviously don't know my mother! if I did say such a thing I could well expect to be dodging all manner of projectiles. (been there said that and learned that walking away calmly is the much better option). If past history is anything to go by she will calm down in a few years.
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Sarah,
You did exactly the right thing. This is not an example of loving and wanting the best for your child, this is simply an example of a domineering person looking for any way to maintain control over another. The person who will be sorry is your mother as her own selfishness and bigotry has driven away one of her children.
Well done!
Sarah,
My father was the same way instead of a will he didn't have my safety and my life was threatened. He didn't want to be informed by anybody it was his way or not at all. He had tons of medical problems and didn't like to listen to doctors either. I did inform him I didn't want to see him or speak to him again. He died in his sleep a year and a half later in his sleep. No I didn't go to his funeral.
Sarah you are OK in your decision Be Happy.
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