What does "in the closet" really mean? We toss that term around quite a bit here and I don't really understand. Crossdressing isn't like owning a boat, we don't just go around telling people. We choose to tell people, or not tell people, about everything. People who are gay don't advertise that the are gay so by not telling people right up front means that they are in the closet? So just because we don't tell everyone we meet that we are crossdressers means we are in the closet. Frankly, I don't tell everyone that I'm straight, so am I in the closet on that?