I'm looking for some input, since I seem to be missing something.
Short version: It seems like I've hit a wall on what I want to do or what experiences I want and it's frustrating. I'm not saying I want to stop or purge, I just don't know what I'm missing.
Longer version: I'm currently dating a great gal and have been having fun as both a boy and girl with her. I've been a CD since I was a kid, but I've only been out the front door for a year and two weeks. For most of that year, I stayed to one club in LA. This summer, I went out once to the mall during the day, I've tried a couple other clubs (TG and otherwise), and have had fun. I also changed up my hair and dressed a little less conservatively (see the blonde pic on my profile). I've come out to a couple people, but that's not something that will continue because it's not something I think is suitable for sharing.
I'm not the sort of person that wants to shove this in people's faces, nor am I the sort that wants to have a checklist of accomplishments (Oh! I've flown a plane! Or gone to a restaurant! Or gone to the zoo!). I don't see much of a need at this point to be out in the real world as Kae. So I don't think I'm looking for this sort of experience to get through the wall.
I have a high degree of confidence that I won't be taking hormones or transitioning, but I would like my girl mode to be more feminine. I've been considering the tria for removing hair on my body and then getting a pro to laser my face.
If seeing myself blond and in different clothes has done, it's made me think that I might want to evolve my look and style. I don't think I need to create a new girl name or persona, but I think I'm still trying to discover what it all means for me. At least now by doing and not thinking.
Have any of you hit this sort of wall? What did it signify to you? How did you get through it?
(older photos here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/mikaela_1103 - blonde attachments in black are from a goth club, which isn't my thing, but I had fun)